How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch | TED

Made a list of reasons why it didn’t work out. Still hurts.

To anyone going through this- They were not that special its all in your head

Whoa 🤯

It's like an addiction. The less you do it, the less your brain will crave it. The less you think of the person, the less you will crave them.

This goes off the rails when the guy says "heroin of being with rich," I get the point that he's driving at but c'mon. Also, what happens if you have to come off heroin and break up with someone at the same time (?)

We are forced to be seperated due to our inter faith relationship
Today she decided she cannot do this anymore, that she doesn't want to fight for our relationship

26 years. Never got over it, always felt the pain and truly think of her everyday , most hours ...I'm not well...time heals? Every trigger stabs

It’s been like 2/5 years I was so in love with her now she’s gone

if I stay with him, I lose myself.... if I don't stay with him, I lose him. I wonder what he'll do without me he got no frnds no nothing. as much as I want to focus on my own life. I'm also very concerned about him

I understand how a human could actually pass from a broken heart. My heart rate can go over 170 sitting still.

This was part of a book right?

4:46 trauma bond. Go find EMDR THERAPY and deal with what actually happened to you. 6:53

I have fallen in love with a friend. He doesn't see me like that but care so much for me. I still want him in my life cause he really is a good friend but right I need space and time to put my feelings in the right place

She was everything to me, my whole world. I idealized her so much that she was more than perfect in my eyes. After two years and three months, we had arguments, and she dropped the bombshell. She told me she didn't love me anymore and that when she realized it, she tried to fix it but couldn't. She'd been lying to me for months, pretending she loved me, until that moment when she got tired of me and told me I made her uncomfortable. I still can't understand how that perfect woman, to whom I gave everything and completely closed off my world to, could betray my love like that…

I just lost my first love. We knew our future wasn’t guaranteed but I was willing to hold on just as long as the present held us. And it hurts me so much, because they were the one who decided to let go, yet it never felt truly mutual. I only went through it because I had respect for them. But otherwise, I would’ve never let go that early. It hurts because neither of us wanted it, but it’s meant to be for the better. I hate how I still hold onto hope, thinking one day they’ll reconsider and come back eventually. I just want to embrace them in my heart for longer.

I know whats hindering me and how much disrespect i tolerate but i can't bring myself to hate or forget him no matter what . I always defend him myself like " He had his reason ,it fine." Its killing me that he's emotionally immature and i have anxious attachment but I want us to end together at the end. I can't imagine when he finally realise the mistake n wats to work out, it would be for another girl.

😢💔 I hope this helps

Two months later; i still love him❤️‍🩹
How can i accept that it’s finally over? How can I let go?

Heart break makes people aimless purpose lessness in life it's very hard to recover from it for innocent people, a lots of mental fogness, sleepless nights omg I don't want to remember it 😢

Wow . Been 3 months and I’m still completely cooked . Does it get better

There was life before them and there will be life after them ❤️‍🩹

I broke up with her yesterday after I found out she was lying to me and hiding things from me throughout the entire relationship... and now I feel so betrayed and hurt. I trusted her after 10 years of being single because my trust was broken. She gained it just to break it again. I feel horrible...

I didn't know this was about breakups.

Losing my mom was and still is devastating after 22 years.

This video saved me so much time and pain!

Very true. I wrote a song called "no signature required," and this is the chorus:

I thought your voice would save me
Say the thing that set me free
But I was asking for an ending
You were never going to give me

Chorus
Closure is not a conversation
It’s not a word you say
It’s the morning that I wake up
And choose to walk away
I don’t need you to confirm it
I don’t need you to agree
I know the truth — I lived it
And that’s enough for me

I literally relate all the lines 😢

Terrible

but the bad things about my ex and our relationship were perfect too. i moss those too. so I'm not sure making the 'How they weren't right' list will work for me. :( 5yrs now...

To heal a heartbreak, the bare minimum is closure, right?

I mourn for a god who never existed. I WISH it were true. Inb4 YT evangelists and the hoodwinked layman alike attempt to “enlighten” me and offer me “salvation” as if it were their own to claim as their own, let alone to offer to another, with or without the grace of “God” granting them such power.

Exactly!
I cry all the time 24/7 ever since she has left. she was not only my partner, but my identity and my safest place. I also recently moved to Germany and I don't have any friends. the connection with my old friends is fading out and you can't get deep with new people. so i find myself alone. alone more than ever. I don't have her, and i don't have anyone to talk to. and i see she is living a life that i have always dreamed of. it shatters my heart into millions. and it doesn't allow me to get to my everyday life. i can't focus on anything. she was my everything and i gave her my whole life. and now I'm nobody.
and I'm so tired to be honest. it's really exhausting to carry all of this pain and anxiety all the time. I'm running away from myself all the time. i just keep asking myself what more should i offer to keep her, to satisfy her. she was the first and the last priority of my life and i could do anything for her. so why? why did she leave me? i keep asking myself. it's the worst days of my life and all i do, is to survive. i really hope to get rid of this addiction.

My heartbreak was - how did I not see through this person before loosing myself to them - my heartbreak is me how did I allow myself to be 100 vulnerable and loyal and taken for the enemy of my heart for so many years

It's still very fresh but I've decided not to worry too long. Why? I suffered long enough in that relationship and don't want to continue that after. Now it's time to live.

She wasn't wrong for me though...

Seeking for love and connection VS how express my true inner needs with the right words and terms.....This is probably among my big struggles in my life

It’s been 3 years since I lost the love of my life and it hurts more now than ever

Hope time really heals

Hoping, I will feel better a day. I have got myself, I know I can handle this, I can get through this. I will get out this pain, I will😭

7:15 is the part that's so hard for me, there wasn't a SINGLE moment where either of us were unhappy (so i thought), not a single photo where we both aren't smiling. There was no big argument that tore us apart, I woke up one day to a text from her saying she was "overwhelmed" and needed space. I still can't get why she didn't say anything, or try to fix it? Was i not worth it? and why? It is so crazy to me that its just over like that, in an instant

Honestly, my breakup wasn’t because she stopped loving me or because there was another guy or anything toxic like that. She was mentally and emotionally overwhelmed for weeks. She kept overthinking our future, family pressure, religion differences, about her career and studies,and whether things would hurt more later if we stayed together. She was crying for days before even telling me about the breakup, which made me realize this wasn’t an impulsive decision for her.

The hard part is that we both still loved each other deeply. But somewhere her mind started believing that love alone may not be enough to survive all the future pressure and emotional stress. During the breakup, I panicked a lot because I didn’t want to lose her, and I kept trying to fix things immediately, while she was trying to create distance because she felt emotionally suffocated and exhausted.

So the breakup wasn’t really about hate, cheating, or loss of feelings. It was more about fear, emotional overload, future anxiety, and her thinking ending things now would hurt less than suffering later. That’s what makes it so painful and confusing.

And ik that i just asking you guys so i can get validation of she will come back bro even though ik its not possible im seeking some good hope but ik if i would hope if she didn't came back i will ne more hurt, idk what to do its just 1 day since we ended

My god the chat feels like a support group 🫂

Here again for the 4th time and I guess many times more can't express how I am feeling now but need to see it to move forward

I am going through my first heartbreak in my 30's. My relationship only lasted 1.5 years, but going through this heartbreak is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I am the one that ended the relationship, but I still miss her presence in my life. I felt like I had to let go of my partner, my best friend, the woman who I thought was the love of my life. I know I ended the relationship for good reasons, but this does not prevent me from missing her, feeling love for her in my heart, or thinking about the good memories. It's hard, but I think Guy's advice to remember the bad memories is very helpful.

Love and hugs to anyone who is experiencing a heart break!!

Its been one week for me so far. Almost no sleep. The gut wrenching feeling is constant. I just wish it would stop. 😢

Im on day 3, well since 24/03/2026 I had a feeling she wasnt gonna come back. But 3 days ago she told me she was already talking to someone else lol