Communicate with Confidence: The Blueprint for Mastering Every Conversation
Video Overview & Insights
Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them.
I totally agree with Jefferson because most people love to talk about themselves
—
In today’s episode, you’re getting the blueprint for developing your communication skills. What you learn will boost your influence and make you more confident.
Ease with talking to someone is not the same as being a good communicator..... that's why this is invaluable!
You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better.
MILF MILF MILF
Jefferson is teaching you proven techniques to express yourself clearly, handle disrespect, and know what to say when someone challenges you, even in high-pressure situations.
💜
He will also teach you:
It was my first time watching this show, and I learned so much. The show is both entertaining and interesting, honestly.
Why miscommunication happens (and how to avoid it)
How you can use strategic communication to get what you want (without manipulation)
Yes
And the 3 ways to express your thoughts so that everyone will understand you
If you’ve ever felt unsure of how to get your point across or wished you could be more confident when speaking, this episode is packed with tools you can use immediately to transform how you engage with others.
For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-216
Absolutely amazing ❤
Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast
Thank you. I have lots of notes to grab for the next family gathering i cant wait to try on🫶
I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.
In this episode:
Hey mel. PLEASE BRING HIM BACK ON 🙏 but this time have him teach us how to respond to our stupid teenagers when they disrespect us and hurt our feelings 😢 like how do we reply back without crying 😢 how do we not lose in a conversation. How do we respond when they cause us of being narcissistic only because they know it hurts and know we are everything but narcissistic 🙏🤕 please get him back on
0:30 Introduction
0:48 Do this instead of blaming your bad behavior on your stress.
The episode is very superficial, and honestly his responses are all shallow and not practical. It feels like he just says random nonsense with confidence, and she keeps going along with it a lot.
2:45 What you say to others matters in a way you never thought of.
5:14 Ask yourself these questions to figure out what’s important to you.
He looks like Ai haha
7:42 What most of us get wrong about arguments.
9:55 The two BEST questions to ask before an argument starts.
2026 and still watching this
13:55 Use this script when you’re about to have a hard conversation.
17:48 Mel’s favorite line that will boost anyone about to hear bad news.
Thank you jefferson for sharing your wisdom and mel❤
21:24 How do you talk to someone you don’t like?
23:05 The surprising response to disarm a mean comment.
Appreciate, Jefferson, your learned methods for honest, respectful, tactful communication that actually conserves our energy!
Also love your transparency, Mel, on all your podcasts!
28:10 How to call out disrespect in other people you’re with.
31:00 Say this when you’re trying to get others to do something different.
There are too many ads in this video.
35:01 How to be more confident when you have to speak in public.
38:11 Say this when you’re walking into a large group of people.
Any Kenyan here 2026❤️
39:53 Instead of asking, How are you?, try asking this instead.
44:15 Conversational goals vs. conversational values.
Love this! Can't wait to rewatch it every other week 😅 Also, is everyone who's gone through a legal degree/course just so awesome or what???!!! Joining the club soon too
50:48 The one question to ask yourself so that you live your best life.
54:57 Make this change to communicate better with your family.
In real life more you talk , more you are appreciated.
—
Follow Mel:
❤❤❤
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/
TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@UCk2U-Oqn7RXf-ydPqfSxG5g
my mom forced me to watch this and i learned nothing
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins
When we ask, what did you hear and have a reply saying you know what you said ? Then how to answer that ?
Website: http://melrobbins.com
—
I love this video so much ❤
Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter
A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want.
This video is so amazing very educating as well, are you watching like me 2026?
—
Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1
Inject values and you don't have to worry about what to say.
—
Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday!
I always taught my impromptu speech students to sniff while they are thinking of their next main point. To keep them from filling with um, ya know, like, etc.
https://melrob.co/spotify
https://melrob.co/applepodcasts
❤
https://melrob.co/amazonmusic
—
Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here:
The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe
Mel, OMG this has been such a useful interview, of course all are, but I totally love his honesty and being a layer to boot. I have used this recently from what I learned. Thank you!
The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp
The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ
I have listened to this over 4 times...awesome video
The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah
More User Perspectives
https://youtu.be/TVJsH1uEry0
🎧 Rise of the Galactic Mech Architect | Full-Length LitRPG Audiobook
🔥 Enter a galaxy torn apart by endless war, where colossal machines decide the fate of entire civilizations.
This gripping LitRPG audiobook follows a genius mech architect gifted with a revolutionary system — a rising engineer capable of designing, upgrading, and commanding unstoppable war machines as he climbs from obscurity to galactic supremacy.
🩸 What to expect:
A brilliant protagonist specializing in mech creation and customization
An advanced system focused on technology, upgrades, and evolution
Massive interstellar battles and futuristic warfare
A journey from unknown engineer… to legendary galactic commander
⚔ If you enjoy mech battles, sci-fi progression, and overpowered technological growth, this is for you. Perfect for fans of LitRPG, sci-fi fantasy, and empire-building adventures.
💬 Don’t forget to:
👍 Like the video
🔔 Subscribe for more LitRPG & Fantasy audiobooks
💭 Comment your thoughts and favorite moments
#litrpg #fantasy #audiobook #audiobookfree #system #mecha #scifi #levelup #opmc #overpowered #progressionfantasy #spaceopera #galaxy #fantasyaudiobook #freeaudiobook #audiobooks
So what happens if they don't have it in them to hear the truth becos they're not in a great mental and emotional state? Then what?
@user-nc7nx6hx5kDear Mel, having you in the world made it more beautiful place to live, indeed. Thank you for helping people to live better. Also, a request: could I send you a private message or email? if so, how? Thank you.
@mozhgan77Thank you so much for this information... it's so insightful.😊
@kintuangel2723I just followed him after this video ❤️. Thank you.
@amanmaan7919♥️
@SaviarJegadishSo good!!
-If I can't be a bridge, be a lighthouse
-If there is room for kindness, I will use it
-Tell them who I am without telling them my name
I get confidence when u cut the tounge of south asia women hindu n mulli women..
@PuneetJindal-x5wSecond time watching this - watch it over and over! I wish I had the money to go to a week (or more) of training to turn my life around. Then, I wouldn't be needing help over and over again, and applying for SSDI. :(
@ThePCExpertAmateurI’m not a big fan of Mel (I disagree with her “let them” philosophy), but it’s always good to hear Jefferson Fisher 🤩
@foreverspringtimeSo much to learn from this episode. I appreciated and admired the message from Mel and Jefferson. So happy I found this podcast, Mel Robbins, and I confidently say that this is so relatable to me.
@vinetafaalavaau8781This is transformative ! Thank you Mel and thank you Jefferson ..
@ManeeshaFernando-p9qI ran into an acquaintance at a casual restaurant once who said, "I don't like you and I think you're a fake." I knew this guy but not well. He seemed somewhat emboldened by alcohol. I was actually taken aback at his comment. My almost immediate response was, "You know that's interesting. I didn't know that you thought that. It's not a thought that I've ever had about you because, though we weren't best friends, I've always thought well of you. So, your comment comes as a surprise to me." He said, "I thought you knew. What do you think about me now?" I said, "It would be hard for me to make any kind of judgment about you right now, because, once again, I've always liked you and thought you were a pretty cool guy (which was the truth)." He walked away. The next time I saw him, he told me that he was just kidding with me (he wasn't; I'm 99% sure of that). Nonetheless, he's not the first person who didn't like me. I'm cool with that. What I wasn't going to do was allow him to determine whether I liked or didn't like him. It was my choice. Whatever he thought/felt was on him. Not me.
-----------------
I was a minister in a local church for 15 years. We sometimes had people who got upset with the church (or me) and decided that they were going to leave. Rather than just do it, they always felt that they needed a 'meeting' with me to give me their list of grievances. I would always (without fail) encourage them to follow their spiritual guidance. I would directly tell them, "I know that you are spiritually guided in your life and that you're only following what you're feeling led to do. I support that and admire you for coming and telling me." Or, if they had a physical list of grievances, I would take the list and say, "There isn't time nor any need to talk about these things now, seeing that you've already made your decision. However, I will read and prayerfully consider everything that you've taken the time to list here. Thank you."
I can't even tell you what a blessing. This video was! Literally minutes before I watched this video. I was praying to God for a way to be able to talk to my husband. We communicate very poorly. And there was a topic that I really needed to discuss with him. Those kinds of things never go well! As soon as I was done. Praying your video popped up. It was a godsend. I listen to the video and I immediately took what I learned and went in and talked with my husband. It went extremely well. He responded. We didn't argue and we had a wonderful day after the conversation. Thank you so much! I will probably go back and listen to this video many times so that I don't forget any of it.
@jenniferschmitt1904"Be the light..." Fantastic! "If there is room for kindness...use it"... Love it! 👌
@davidsheppard4884Isn’t it a manipulation? To tell someone how you wanna feel after the conversation. Why is the other person responsible for your feelings?
@АлияУварова-ч4мI love hearing discussions on better ways to communicate. I will say that there's 2 big misunderstandings about introverts is that we all are shy and we all keep our mouths shut. That's so far from the truth. Introverts can be outspoken and bold but just enjoy their own company and refuel off of being alone.💗
@littlelights-i5fGood Conversations Guys. thank younfor your time sir ma'am!!!
@jmartinianovlogging1482Why are you calling it communication skills? That’s a pure manipulation that you practice and teach about.
@AnnaProzorova-b8jMel catching herself all the time 😂
@patricialoyceLet’s add one takeaway in this thread to see how far it can go 😊 “What you say is who you are.”
@EsmatullahSaadat-b1j