Building Healthy Relationships

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Thank you Father Mike.

Thank you for these videos, always so encouraging and helpful!

This video is a gift. Thank you!

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A very wise person once said to me, no matter who you marry, you wake up, married to someone else. And you let the chips fall where they may. Advice. I should’ve taken it I didn’t because I knew better than everybody else. It didn’t end well. Because you’re right you don’t talk about the same things at six months that you talk to 16 months or after 24 months or after he’s been gone for 25 days on a business trip. People change, and that’s a really important lesson. I taught one of my children that lesson. The other one it wouldn’t of mattered if I talk to him till I was blue in the face he was never going to get married, and he was never going to have children and if you asked him why he say I grew up 19 years in my parents house. I know everything there is to know.

One of the things I loved, was how my parents communicated. Prayer was always part of this discussion to from both of them. I learned from my dad that they would first discuss the subject. Then they would figure out which one of them knew more about it so they could look into it. Whoever knew the most about it investigated and came back with what they discovered. Then the two of decide what the best response would be to that situation. And then, after that, they would come to a decision. The second way was if they both came up with the exact same information. They would literally come up with the best decision they could make. And always together as one and united. I know one of things they did was list, pros and cons. I admired both of them for their consistent and loving responses to try to come up with the best answer to a solution always together and always united as one.

My mother at the age of 16 went before the Blessed Sacrament asking God to give her a husband. I’m so glad she did. My dad was way ahead of his time and very egalitarian with his wife and with his children. As head of the house, he definitely took the lowest position and stayed there. You can’t even imagine the ways that my dad served and loved my mom. My highest recommendation is to go before the blessed sacrament and ask God to give you the person you are to marry. 🙏🏼🛐🕊️🙏🏼

People don’t change. In time, you just get to know them better.

Made my day... there is some things only time can reveal.

Your tongue was probably born to speak German rather than English. English is quite hard to speak in an American accent.

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You are so awesome, father Mike

Open transparent direct communication

Uh...what is your name?🤪

I am trying "to build healthy relationships" always HOPE. Strong Faith! And yes, jumped into a crazy relationship(s) over the years. As a Survivor of Childhood Sexual Abuse, Emotional Abuse, Survivor of Domestic Violence (more than once) ..... sorta feel ruined. I am very strong minded yet was repeatedly manipulated, and I have made very poor choices! one thing is for sure ....No more unevenly yoked marriages! The first husband was suspected of abusing and/or ending the life of hookers. Ex was 'DNA'd (so to speak) like 2 years later and wrongfully cleared .... in other words never charged. And many years later died a horrific death (by a confessed roommate) ..... doing time. He passed away- atheist. Note: I had no business marrying an atheist, seek life of normalcy .... some of my neighbor's are crazy and atheists. I haven't been to church in years. Wonder how can people not believe in God? very common in the world today. Hope to write a book. Great Video Fr. Mike! Believe God called you to PRAY for others, preach, including all the 'You Tube' teachings .... social media.

Hi Fr. Mike good afternoon. Just wanted to let you know that my husband Miguel and I always watch your videos and do a lot of discerning and meditation right after them because they have help us to grow personally spiritually and to share with others what we have learned. And some we have even shared with our kids. Great keep up the good work for Jesus. God bless you.

Father why do i attract crazy people onto my life😭

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Great tips Fr. Mike, but I guess there's a lot of cultural differences here, in Kerala, India, where I am from, Catholics are not encouraged to date at all.. it's more of family arranged marriages and dating is an alien and shameful concept.. There is no awareness about Catholic-style dating at all..if you want to get to know about your partner, it's only after you are engaged. You get to meet the prospective partner for a couple of times and have to make a decision about marriage solely based on that.. you might even get married within a month of getting to know your fiance!! it's like spinning the wheel and testing your luck..! So we may be Catholic in our faith and upbringing, but it's sad to acknowledge that these points you discussed don't apply to a majority of Catholic youngsters in our place.

I wonder, what if your partner is also your, lets say, childhood friend and you've had plenty of time to know each other. Would it still be rushing if they get married about 6-7 months in?

Fr. Please pray for me girl and all my son's and daughters boys/girls. My boy father, my boy husband. My whole family members living and deceased boys and girls. For always being as created and blessed by God. Gave us good, goodness, , happyness,joyfulness, peace, blessings, kept away and protected from all hells everything and everyone. Never we should be hells onyone and anything. ............ remember and pray for all inocent good goodness blessed etc suffering,tortured , insulted, shamed , betten, hit, raped,forced to be bad, hells everything and everyone. Fr. Please pray for all as priests right prayers matters a lot for all and whole world. I personally remember and pray for all truly good, goodness, inocent, blessed, devoted, dedicated , right prayful, loving , all priests, nuns, brothers, sisters, catholics, bishops, pops. In there priesthood and vocation. God bless us all and especially all who needs prayers and blessings..........!

Thanks for the fun at the beginning.

Limerence confuses us. Must give it time.

Would like to see the church teaching on familiar spirits an enslavement of the mind.

this is the definitive information from a non-definitive vision.

Thank you !

Wish I had this information before I married!

Thank you for being so real!

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So, the Bible was written by the Catholic Church and I’ve done the research. Also, when I listen to a priest talk about the history of the Bible they give pretty cool facts about who, where and why. Anyways, I get a little frustrated with non Catholics who preach the Bible and don’t talk about it’s Catholic origin, and treat its history like God miraculously made it. If anyone has good advice on the matter, that would be much appreciated. Thanks

My husband and I got engaged after dating for three months. We. Just. Knew. That said, we also had a two and a half year long engagement before we got married, and it gave us a good amount of time to get to know each other before getting married. Did we rush into getting engaged? Maybe, but we did at least take longer to get married than we did to get engaged. We had initially planned to get get married six months after we got engaged. In hindsight, that would have definitely been way too soon for us.

I know we are the exception, but my hubby and I knew on our second date we were going to get married. We told no one because we knew they would freak out. 18 months later we were married. That was 26 years ago, Blessed be God. Then again we were both a little older. I was 32, wondering if I would EVER get married.... Hubby was 44. We worked together in surgery and just knew. Knew we belonged together. Deo gratias!

The problem with trying to achieve almost scientific discernment is that you might be that much more upset by any disappointments that come after marriage - because they will run contrary to your 'perfect' discernment. The best marriages I know tied the knot quite early (1-2 years). In some way, marriage is about going all in (with some common sense). But! Main point should be - there are LOTS of factors at play...

Yes on learning to problem-solve. If the other person can't collaborate in problem-solving, it's probably not meant to be. Yes on patience; always good, due to being a virtue. However, waiting, by itself, doesn't make a relationship better per se. It just makes it older. It does, of course, give the two participants a chance to get to know each other and become used to each other's idiosyncrasies, (as well as discover the truth about any deceptions that one or both have been trying to use on the other,) but it's not guaranteed to fix things. Always be vigilant.

Love your wisdom father, I feel my mind is really improving and being reframed to something so much better the more I listen to you,👏

Lol fr. Mike your a fiesty

1.time- some things only time can truly reveal, so don’t rush 2.understand how far you truly are, be honest with yourself 3. Problems are bound to occur, so build have the best problem solving/decision making skills possible.