10 Things I Wish I Knew About Men In My 20s

One very important thing you seem to miss here is, that words are NOT enough.. It is your actions and your intimacy who speaks the language a man understands.

don’t be hasty to believe everything she says, she says a few things worth considering but anyone that claims that they know the sole reason why someone would disagree is ignorant.

fantastic video indeed ! and your tone... i cannot.😂 feels like an older sister giving it to me good !

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It sounds like she dated nothing but douche bag men in her twenties because what she’s saying men do or want I cant relate to a single bit of it and I’m 25yo male

Hmm..requires a bit of nuance but hey nice direction, Madam 💜🥭

What is this garbage?

You help me through such a hard time of life. Thank you. I deeply love you !!!

I knew a girl in college who came from a wealthy family, and she couldn't get out of the habit of trying to buy friends. She'd make us uncomfortable with these extravagant gestures.

That's what rule #1 is. Men absolutely value women doing things for them. Especially when we're sick. But I understand why it seems like we don't, because women generally don't do the thoughtful, unless they're feeling insecure about their position. And if they're feeling insecure, there's probably a reason.

What you're describing is "doing things for men won't make them like you _if they don't already._"

Oh, I see where this is going. All I'll say is if you think this is a good idea, try it out. When the relationship collapses, do a before/after personal inventory, and post it somewhere -- I select for intelligence, so I don't foresee dating someone who hears "men don't value you doing nice things" and think "that's seems odd, but some lady in her "30s" says it's true, so I'll disregard common empathy". There are differences between men and women, but not like THAT.

I've seen this content creator on tiktok, and her whole thing is "you have the means for the man's reproduction. Well, this [meaning a substantial financial output] is the price. And my response is "not if you were the last woman on earth, and you got up on the dinner table, ovulating, legs akimbo, would I mix my genes with yours."

I’ve been following you on and off as a man and I do believe you have some great advice.

I love the headless chicken metaphor

3:35 no, wont deny it. Its true. If you dont value yourself, how can anyone else? I want a partner who can handle their shit, not a child or a slave.

These are opinions that she's learned but it doesn't make them correct.

Most of this is applicable to the "wrong kind of men". If you would stop desiring animals and start desiring humans, you would be suprised how different your experiences are.

How about this situation: Met a man at my work (customer), made him aware I’d like to get to know him and we did. For months (like 6 months) we were only talking and getting to know each other) and there is/was clear chemistry. He then said that he was badly hurt by previous relationship and doesn’t want to “risk” wasting his time and his peace with another relationship. So I accepted it and started distancing myself, but he keeps coming back and making more and more effort. Which is great, but at the same time he holds on to his story of being unsure if he is ever ready for relationship. We are both in our 40s, neither of us wants children and both of us are wanting travel more in the future.. so no clock’s ticking in here, but I’m still thinking if I should just put him in the bin. It’s hard one cause he is a great guy and I really enjoy his company. Thoughts?

We don’t age, we grow up? Is that valid for m and w?

Exactly girl. I am 1000% agree with you!

What if situations when a girl is not interested in relationships because she has an aim for something and he requests to be a close friend. Do you agree or not.

I really don't know why we generalise about men or women
We are individuals

When guys say women this or women say or do this not all girls/women are the same

Same for men

Things I wish I knew about women when I was growing up, 80 million abortions, single mother nation, man hating biased courts, jail bait ........... this would have been sufficient, teach the young men this in school and it's games over.

Number 4 rlly stuck w me a lot im glad i heard this. 3 weeks ago i found out my bf of 3.5 years was cheating on me. I was crushed (still am) i did so much for him. I would have to beg him to communicate more with me, and he’d apologize and nothing would change for years. I was so in love with him I thought that maybe that’s just how he is, and since I love him sm i was willing to put up with the lack of communication and effort. He made excuses. When he would finally respond or call I’d have an attitude and he’d even told me, that it makes him not want to talk to me. It hurt me a lot. I’m going to work on myself for a while but I learned a lot of important lessons about genuinely listening to people’s actions. You can’t love someone enough for the both of you.

You’re helping me so much. I need to listen to you every morning, I appreciate you so much

Ya this is QUALITY content

So true, I wish I left at the moment he said all of those things... "I don’t want a relationship (but i want to be around you), you are not my type (but you are still hot), I'm not ready..." and more comments about my body :( I know I had to love myself more. And Girl... all the time wasted, and all the confusion when he said he's not sure but acted like the perfect boyfriend anyway... I feel so bad for staying in that place for so long

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Terrible advice. Its very simple, be available, dont be bitchy, be nice and pleasant and dont be bossy. Theres plenty of young men that want to get married but they might not be making six figures, that just means you are going to help him build a life together

Absolutely Delusional.

Paints men in a bad light doesn't it

Ya we have attraction, but lack compatibility because of are values. Im so sad, Ive dated this person 5 years, but he is very structured and Im always changing . We have alot of love so its head vs heart.

Hand held mammal😂😂

As a man I 100% agree this was very knowledgeable

Thank you babe ❤

So I just fed my exes ego for a year and a half 😫🤣🤣

I’m 20 and I have never dated and u suggested dating someone older if u are dating to marriage but honestly im terrified of older men even 4 years older so i don’t know if I should wait till my mid 20s to start dating ?? I have no experience at all in dating just very high standards

So basically love myself and invest in myself. Got it

What she said is true I figure out in my 20s!
So put yourself in order girls❤️

So true

Soo raw and soo straight to the point, everything with an example..no sugar coating, no vague things
Thank you thanks a lot. I wish I knew about this a bit earlier. But anyways never stop making videos like this. I really like the way u add examples to every point u tell

sleeping together doesn't mean sex

Man here: I agree with most of your points, though there were some disagreements: Thoughtful acts of service are important to a man, especially if he has options. You can do that without overdoing it. Yes, focusing on yourself first is important. But don't overdue it and waste your prime years focusing on education and career and neglect finding a partner. Your educational attainment is not going to attract the man you want as much as being young and in your prime-- which is why waiting until your 30's to get married is destructive advice.

Get your knowledge of men from experiencing things first-hand, not from the internet!!