Yuko Munakata: The science behind how parents affect child development | TED

What are you talking about? It's something every guy I know can fix 😅 it's a bicycle, not a bow 10 speed transmission awd

Hello brothers and sisters. I would just like to recommend that everyone read the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. Reading that book was the best desicion I ever made.

17 minutes given to a Ted Talk and I'm wondering what I watched.

This is that kind of talk where someone wants to do good by some people and end up doing nothing or doing worse. I get it that we have a lot of confusing parenting styles, but trying to make it look like no matter how hard we try it's a thing of luck is more like saying, 'don't bother trying, we're all gonna die anyways.'

Parents can do more, and as a former child and currently a parent, I think we need to be constantly improving because our actions matter a lot.

It’s a nice message but I think inaccurate. The example of her and her husband is likely because he is a secure attachment style and she is anxious attachment style. Attachment styles are directly related to the way parents raise their children.

This is a beautiful song to parenthood - thank you

Okay So this is a nature vs nurture debate, and your bottom line is nurture doesn't matter. Got it. If you think that years and years of being exposed to the two most significant figures in your life has no influence on your character, responses and knee jerk reactions, you have missed the bottom line of parenting. As adults, yes, we have the responsibility to better ourselves for ourselves, because this isn't dependent on our parents anymore, but those behaviors that needs to be unlearned they are due to how we were raised not just our nature.

Her presentation sounds so superficial and robotic. I know she's reading a teleprompter but she's far from a natural presenter.

Are you saying child abuse doesn't affect how a child turns out? Are you saying that narcissism is something that people are born with? What about cluster b personality disorders?

Can you imagine watching this from Palestine 🇵🇸

as a father of a 2 year old and very sassy daughter, i went through a few parenting styles , and this are my reflections.
always be open to learn and to be taught , not just by others, but even by your child.
always be ready to shift and constantly adjust your parenting style according to your childs personality
remember you will make mistakes , try to forgive yourself and become better.

- it makes me wonder about which studies were used and how the children and parents were followed.

Also would crappy neglectful parents even be a part of studies used for this research? If my parents were asked to be part of a study they would not have done so willingly. Parents are the number one “conditioners” in early childhood I had assumed. It makes me think of Little Albert. That poor child was conditioned to be terrified of white things.

Also the problem of how two kids in the same family can experience two entirely different parenting experiences.

This talk opened up so many questions for me.

Most parents want to do right by their children but I would assume that this talk could give parents license to treat their children with less regard?

I get we have no control over what our little humans will turn out like given the best of circumstances and what effects will be carried with them and what will not.

The discovery that trauma is carried down genetically how would that work with this theory?

Interesting talk

Narcissistic parenting styles are the cause of fatalist suicide.

In current digital era there r difficulties in parenting

At the end what she wants to say without faithful words is that our children’s outcome ultimately depends on God and we have to love them and give Him the trust that He shapes them to their perfection if we allow! In you I trust my GOD my LORD!🙏🏽🥰

New parents should hug their children more often in my view.

I think parents can affect their children in ways that are difficult for scientific experiments to measure. E.g. how the child feels about intimate relationships, the child's attitude towards getting married and starting a family, or whether the child is drawing strength from her childhood to tackle everyday adversities or is the child drawing strength from everyday life to mend childhood scars.

Plain wrong.

Dumbest conclusions ever. The study would only work on twins and even then parents are biased.

Parents change over the years so it is not the same parent raising another kid. I mean, come on, let those scientists out of their basements 😂

Parents interfere with their Childrens freewill to make their own choices just because they don't like what makes them happy.

This is a wonderful message for already good parents. Not a general message for all parents. Just my two cents.

Well, I'm bawling my eyes out. So touching

So, could a complete lack of education and training suddenly make an inventive society with genius discoveries?

Train up a child the way you would like it to go and when it's grown it will not depart from it. [Proverbs]

South Koreans win a lot of Olympic medals in Tae Kwon Do. Japanese win a lot of Olympic Judo medals.

whi doesn't know how a bicycle works lol, like 90% of men would easily lol

This has been one of the least actionable Ted Talks I have ever had the displeasure of watching, thank you.

What a wonderful lady with a message/knowledge (based on profund studies, but also on her own expierience) that creates hope, gratefulnes and brings peace and acceptance, destroyes ugly selfblame and blame from others and that inspires to go no, no matter what 🦋.

Different parents would have spared me the burden of despising them.
Just look at the mirror before procreating, are you ready yet? Did you work on yourself enough?

Just wanna mention that Dutch parents encourage kids to leave the nest, not to be babied, but to build strong self-reliance tooooooo

how your children turn out, we need two incomes? always on the go,? no wounder some men bail out? our socity has changed, we are a prouduct of our environments? I have been around have seen the two micro climates we have on the land of our homes, but they are changing a way of life I feel for children,, they need to bond, the pace is changing, I feel they have drainned the lands of the moisture,, women should breast feed, helps with bonding and work the breast glands, just like a sheep it will give milk untill lamd stops and goes to solids, , I hope we understand the water table, even in the cities, we need that water and snow to stay and work, so what the park floods, at keast it will give back and filter water, that snow we salt away acts like a blanket,, we need to leave some land in the cities and homes and condos for kids environment, >3 we used to care would worry a sky scraper would get in way of birds, or they would fly into them? I feel we could do so much better for future generations with proper planning>3

fantastic speaker but undoubtedly biased. motto: "live in the moment and appreciate the little things."

She totally dismisses the fact that not every parent is emotionally stable or strong enough to raise a child. Being to critical on a child, emotianol outbreaks, emotional neglect, VERBAL ABUSE those are ALL things that will effect your children and sometime eventually traumatise them.
If you are not emotionally stable enough and decide to have a child and ignore the fact that you are responsible for the way you child turnes out, DONT BE SUPRISES THAT THEY CUT YOU OFF.

This video is for parents who are emotionally stable, who don't suffer from generational trauma and the ones that are not abusive.
Cause for a fact you ARE the one who shapes your child and the experiences it has and why it is fucked up later because YOU traumatized them. So I repeat. DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN IF YOU ARE NOT EMOTIONALLY STABLE.

This video is for NON ABUSIVE Parents.

This advice and reasoning is for the privileged lotus-eaters. I dont even know how much direct experience the speaker has with children. As a teacher I engage with children with high socio-economic challenges. Just one kind/supportive/wise parent or teacher can make a world of difference in the most predictable direction in their lives.

This lecture is wrong on so many grounds.

Firstly the speaker and her husband are adults with fully formed personalities (formed as a result of their genes and environment a big part of which were their parents) who can not be compared with infants and toddlers who are still on the path of getting their personalities shaped.

Secondly, the analogy between hurricane and butterfly might sound good in a Ted Talk but parents contribute so much more than just being a butterfly flap. There are a ton of researches that support that. Talk about self-concept, attachment styles, the parents matter a lot more than she makes it look like.

Lastly, learning about child development does help in one's parenting journey if one intends to put things in practice. It's not easy to do the right thing. It might mean embracing change on a personal level and that's hard. This lecture could be a feel-good thing for parents but not help them or their children in any conceivable way.

Can anyone give me the summary of this video ?

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I feel enormously triggered and invalidated. If I have not been born and lived with abusive parents, I would not have developed severe PTSD and major depressive disorders. This “researchers” completely disregard the children’ experience could be influenced by the power dynamics in the home: whether they are treated fairly received unconditional love or not, or they have been treated like a scapegoats therefore they feel stifled and controlled

What is this?

I don't think any small child should go through therapy by a normally complete stranger. That's my take on one side of things.

Like what adult is going to sit down and explain. This is extrovert is and that's introvert. I know my dad never grilled me why I'm naturally a homebody individual.

And the basis of me being put in therapy. I'm naturally an introvert or I guess I don't care to homebody. Nowadays especially. Like with retrospect, I should have never been down and out for how long that I was. But hey it puts my life in a while new but better in every way possible - at least mentally.

The whole book of child psychology is outdated to me. Very archaic. Like a form amphetamines used to be used for lobotomy in just the 1800-1900. But methamphetamine is still being prescribed.

Just trying to help others now.

Im almost certain that im a human and my daughter is also a human.. I know sure sure she isnt a storm anyways.. but now when you said Im a butterfly and not human. Are you joking with me? Am I really butterfly?? Oh im so confused .. w

Parenting does affect child development but on the other hand there are definitely things out of your control. She makes it sound like it’s all genetic. Nonsense. If I was raised by my neighbor I would definitely be a different person.

The words “success” and “successful” are used a lot here. I’ve never thought about these words in raising my children (which I’m still doing). I emphasize priorities with them. Showing them how to respect others and themselves etc. At the end of the day, relationships are what bring fulfillment. My hope is I teach them how to communicate and listen so they will have productive relationships. Rich, poor, etc is not my concern. But then again, what do I know. 🤣