Why Bother With Marriage?

As a private person who's hated ceremonies and public display's for as long as I can remember, I'm not going to suddenly want any part of that simply becuase I love someone. If you love someone and are commited to them then why make that public and official in any way. Its already acknowledged, just privately. By this point why bother with marriage? is a sentiment that I'm suprised isn't more widespread. Much like why come out? (as a gay person). You express the love for each other through daily actions and commitment, and nothing else should be needed. What on earth is it that makes some people think that this marriage ritual, makes the love acknowledged or valid?! To me its unecessary, but then I also have such radical opinions as: continuing to procreate when we don't have to and there's already 8.3 billion of our resource-guzzling species, and many children to adopt or foster, is also unecessary.

If you have the right person you won't be undoing anything stop focusing on everything being negative marriage is better than single any day of the week Fuck single

you are trying to be impartial here. let me then say the quiet part out loud. marriage is a huge boon to women and a disaster for men. I speak from experience. the state is a big factor in this fact.
the real answer is -> men 👈 don't ever marry 😎🍸

Unless you have a lot of money and assets entangled, or disagreements it’s actually really easy to get a divorce

God l pray that everyone at a Lighthouse Baptist in Lewistown Montana gets married ASAP 🤞🤞🤞🙏🙏🙏.

Why is it always black men and white women relationships.?

Is there nothing in between?

Personally The relationship means more to me if there isn’t a contract. If it’s easy to get out and both people work to stay it means more and there is an easy way out if it gets toxic over time. I would rather have long term or lifelong partner without it. I also don’t want to have kids. I’d rather travel with a guy and have animals

I would have eaten the marshmallow, because I didn't trust adults they keep their word.

Marriage can be confusing but meaningful.

If ur marrying to satisfy ur lust and romantic fantasy, obviously u guys will face divorce. Marriage was never based fully on love

Nowadays

Do you live with a unloyal person who thinks your as unloyal or do you pay for a good time and fuck any woman you want vs being stuck with a woman who is using you

I was here all anti marrige life but looking at these comments just feels sad...they keep stressing the word single and keep boasting about how amazing single life is..i wanted an opinion from people who are in relationships have been in many and have commitment issues...half this section is insecurities and men who hate their wifes

I’m researching marriage pros and cons and this seems so biased and pessimistic lmao the only benefit was increasing structure and reducing impulsive behaviors/decisions. Interesting take. The research continues.

Wow, so much cynicism in the comments! Marriage is really good. I love being married. Good video.

Im Married and it's the biggest mistake of my life. Would have been better of having a girlfriend

This video sponsored by the divorce industrial complex

Ask a married person
If you weren’t married. What would u sacrifice to be married again
I’ll wait…

There is an alternative explanation. While official rates of religion has declined, beliefs in immaterial forces and souls haven't. For many people, their significant other is aka their soulmate, and their marriage and often linked procreation, are viewed by them as the union and fusion of souls to produce a new soul.

Marriage might be old-fashioned, but it's meaningful.

In response to your video, and others like it, I am calling for a full-scale MEN'S LIBERATION MOVEMENT. To get on board, you must do 4 things:





REJECT ALL DOUBLE STANDARDS, GENDER STEREOTYPES, AND GENDER ROLE EXPECTATIONS THAT ARE PLACED ON MEN, AND REFUSE TO LIVE BY THEM. Remember, as men, we are only LEGALLY required to obey one gender role expectation, registering with Selective Service (military draft registration). We are not bound to live by any other. Therefore, be not afraid to step outside the "man box" and embrace your individuality. Be proud of the unique individual that God made you.



LIVE BY THE GOLDEN RULE. We should treat others the same way that we want others to treat us; and we should not place demands or expectations on others that we do not want them to place on us. In turn, we should not keep company with any females who do not treat us the same way that they want to be treated in return. Nor should we keep company with females who place demands or expectations on us that they do not want us to place on them.



STAY SINGLE. If you are not married or cohabiting, then stand your ground and stay as you are. Consider the words of St. Paul: "Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed. Are you single? DO NOT SEEK A WIFE."(1 Corinthians 7:27). Therefore, if you are single and you choose to stay single, then STAND YOUR GROUND and know that YOU HAVE GOD'S APPROVAL.



GET A VASECTOMY. If you are 18 or over, then get this done as soon as possible. This way, you can enjoy being intimate with a woman without the fear of pregnancy. The blatant truth is that for men, nowadays, the only way to level the field, in the area of male-female relations, is to GET A VASECTOMY and STAY SINGLE. I made this decision many years ago, and I have no regrets. I encourage all men to follow my example. In doing so, we are not only practicing personal responsibility, but we are making use of our God-given freedom and boldly declaring, "My life! My body! My choice!" Besides, we have over 8 billion people in this world, most of whom are impoverished and/or spiritually misguided. Do we really need to make any more? Therefore, let us not place the burden of birth control on women. But let us take control of our own lives.





I have decided to call this movement "OPERATION INDIAN OUTLAW" (named after a song by Tim McGraw). My challenge to all men is: Do you have the strength and the courage to join me and get on board with this movement? I pray that God helps you to do so...LET'S ROLL.

Staying because it's more difficult to leave is a bad reason to stay

Watching my this to try and convince myself it’s fine that “no one likes me and probably no one will ever want me around them forever.” But I got programmed for marriage from a teenager up, read too many novels, and ended up thinking I would fall in love and something is wrong if it didn’t happen. Asking god to help me be ok with what I am. But I’m so embarassed and disappointed.

Been married once; still married 35-1/2 years later. No regrets. A GOOD woman will still have bad days, as will I, but the overall package of marriage to a GOOD woman is a good deal. We still kiss goodbye daily and hello after work daily! It is important for the children. Expectations from marriage are often based upon Disney fairy tales. That said, the laws are skewed against men and need serious scrutiny and some reform.

I been saying this since I was 8 years old, no cap. At this point I’m 28, lifelong single, and I take it to the next level; why bother with having a partner, even with having sex. It seems like a silly game to me. I’m good with my left hand.

modern women mentality + divorce/children custody laws = men running away from marriage

Nice try, Alain’s sweet voice. No amount of soothing philosophical tone can make me marry anyone.

I miss my single life 😢

Nonsense

Never understood marriage to begin with and never will.

Spoiler alert: Blame the baby boomers, for creating such myth they managed to get when they were 22 years old they could marry, have kids, own a car, own a house like wtf, they expect us to afford all that now but it isn’t

So what I got from this is that you need to get married ONLY if you're the kind of person who would cheat - the kind of person unworthy of being married and who thus probably shouldn't get married since the supposedly robust mechanisms of enforcement that marriage creates to prevent divorce are now kind of a laughing stock.

Most people move away from their parents cuz they get tired of them. Getting married is like living with your mother all over again from the start! First you love em, then you'll hate them eventually and your stuck with them. The only way to kick them out is to pay AGAIN and possibly give half your HARD EARNED MONEY to THEM!!!! Seriously you pay a crap ton of money to get stuck then pay again double or triple to have them removed. Its a psychological boobytrap made by the government to grab some extra money from your pockets, its literally a scam!

Marriage is a scam.

When I ask guys that are married they tell me either don’t get married or it’s ok

Typically shallow and conservative analysis from cash money de Botton

NEVER GO FOR AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE

Marriage is just a waste of time and fucking money

Marriage is great

I am a 19 year old young man and the experience of poverty that I have experienced since childhood I really agree with you, in the midst of the current economic difficulties I have thought further about not wanting to get married for the rest of my life, I was from elementary school until I graduated from high school and now my parents' economy is still very bad, some of the savings that I have from childhood until now are used to pay installments for goods / debts and living needs, even that is still not enough, there are still some people who collect debts from my parents who continue to come to my house when I am starving because I have no money to buy food not to mention I continue to be blamed by some people I know close to me, needs and taxes are getting more expensive but (salary / income) is still the same, so in my opinion my decision not to get married for life and suffer in poverty in my own life is better than I have to invite my children and wife to suffer from poverty like I am experiencing now ❤

So, real talk: In the future, the human race will consist of the children of married couples. It will not consist of gays, lesbians, transsexuals, liberals, city dwellers, psychotherapy-goers, the 'cheerfully childless', liberals, feminists, environmentalists, humanities majors, atheists, or agnostics.

In the future, our bones will be dug up by archaeologists with some of my DNA. But not any of yours.

Maybe when the laws are better. Now is not the time