What is Ego | Dr.K Explains

So ego is the attachment to external things by nature?

I once experienced a spell of ego-dystonic self-destruction - I could see it happening, but I did not know how to stop it; like a deer in headlights. Can you help with that? (God, I wish I could somehow recreate this live-stream.)

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Thank you I finally understand the EGO "Alan Watts "I have been watching and then your channel popped up 🎉

7:33 I'm taking a dump

how should we feel about people that intentionally try to go through your identity publicly? like call you names just wrong enough to be slightly rude, but not enough to be obviously rude and they just slowly erode your sense of self i guess, until the people around you in that setting think you are what they have made you out to be inside of who you think you are?

if you dont look at chat the video becomes kind of like a blue clues episode

27:20 he sounds like an actual chad wtf

Is the ego also the person to make us lazy when it comes to exercise?
We should move and exercise to stay alive. And yet some of the smartest people I know, refuse to do it and get fat and sick.

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Ego is a protective mechanism

Ego is all future oriented.

To reduce ego, good exercise is to be in the present.

To increase confidence, good exercise is to just do things away from judgement (spending time in nature is a good one)

I really enjoy and find it helpful to tell myself things are easy, but yea, I HATE other people telling me that!

One of my favorite things since watching this years ago is the study where they put cameras on monkeys that live on top of a mountain. They were on a peak and when the sun rose, all the monkeys stopped their grooming, their foraging, everything they were doing to stop and stare at the sunrise. Like 9 monkeys on camera all did so. And the researchers watching the livestream also did the same, and then after a few moments of shared experience, realized they all did the exact same thing together.

In that moment, monkeys and humans were one. It was an entirely shared experience of value. There were no individuals or species in that moment, just the miraculous daily moment.

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I failed those days not life

9:23 “You can’t do this to me… YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED!?”

Don't we need ego though... I don't want to be just a person taking a dump so to speak. I want to be motivated to develop more identity. Forming more of a concept of "who I am"...my personal "identity" is what fills me (ego) but also what *motivates me.... So how do I divorce from ego when it's literally the fuel for life? Anyone relate or can someone give me insight on how to not have ego and have genuine personal motivation?

Hi Dr. K. Thank you for all the help and guidance you provide to people, but i have a question.

Context to the question:
You talked about living in the present, don't think about the future, dont think about the past. I understand this, focusing on the past leads to regrets, remembering the painful moments and often overall sadness, in terms of future, you are thinking about what it is you need to achieve, that you didnt achieve, what it is you should do but dont feel like doing now and you beat yourself about not doing it and how it is going to hurt your future and so the way to be happy should be, to focus on the present. I was wondering though, the example about the streamer you said is she was enjoying streaming, then stopped enjoying it (probably because of the dopamin reward system adaptation right?) but she stayed streaming because of ego and the overall social role and identity she created around it even thought she did no longer like it.

Actual question (or rather questions):
So in this situation, in your opinion, what should she do? stop streaming and focus on something else that makes her happy? You said watch the sunset, do something that makes you happy. But what if everything that makes you happy does not provide income for you? How are you going to live? Or what should you do in a situation in which basically producing stuff (creating value) is not enjoyable for you, only consuming stuff does?

For me personally, i know just-about what i want in life, but i dislike any vehicle of how to get there and therefore seem to be stuck in a same place.

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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:

00:29 🧘 Ego, in Sanskrit known as "Ahamkar," is the false self, often tied to external roles like job, nationality, or relationships.
02:51 🤔 Humkar activates as a protective mechanism when facing rejection or negative emotions. It distorts perceptions, creating a false narrative to shield from shame or discomfort.
07:08 🌅 Living in the present is a way to move away from ego. Activities like watching a sunset or even a simple act like taking a dump can help detach from external identities.
10:34 💼 Building identity solely around external factors, like a job or external validation, can lead to crises when those external factors change or are threatened.
13:48 📹 For streamers, the challenge is to create content without letting the number of viewers define their worth. Developing a healthy identity beyond external validation is crucial.
16:57 🔄 Rejection sensitivity dysphoria, though not explicitly defined clinically here, is discussed as a phenomenon where low self-confidence can lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy of negative interactions.
19:13 🔄 Low self-confidence may lead to a negative cognitive bias, where positive feedback is discounted, reinforcing a lack of confidence. Addressing this bias is crucial for building self-esteem.
19:27 🔄 Rejection Sensitivity Syndrome is not about actual rejection, but the belief that only rejection is appropriate. Building confidence in oneself is crucial to overcome it.
20:39 🤔 If you feel confident but handle compliments and insults the same way, it indicates a lack of true confidence. Confidence is multi-dimensional and should be unbiased in receiving feedback.
22:30 🤷 Body dysmorphia, especially in bodybuilders, can be challenging to treat. The distinction between ego-syntonic and ego-dystonic behaviors is essential in understanding psychological issues.
26:30 🚫 Calling something "easy" in the context of building confidence is devaluing and implies incompetence. Confidence is not easy, and labeling it as such overlooks the individual's struggle and challenges.
28:16 🔄 Self-destructive behaviors can be ego-syntonic, where individuals believe they are doing the right thing even though they are harming themselves. Recognizing self-destructive patterns requires self-reflection.
31:24 🌳 Building confidence involves challenging oneself in ways where external judgments are irrelevant. Spending time in nature, engaging in activities without societal expectations, can contribute positively to confidence development.

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Im really shit math and i keep on fighting it by saying no when resistant.

something i found that makes me able not to react out of ego is simply taking a few seconds to focus on my breathing. i guess that puts you in direct contact with yourself instead of an idea of who you are.

ego isn't your enemy, ego is your edge

Doing things that you are afraid of is also a very good thing becoming confident. Confident is essentially trusting yourself. If you think about it, only selfdoubt and anxiety is keeping from beeing confident. I mean if you are a person who isnt very confident, then you will often have very doubtfull thoughts... The best thing that you can do is to weaken those thoughts. Try to memorize as many bad/negative thoughts you may have and write them down. Then you ask yourself these questions to each negative thought that you have written down:

What is so absurd about this belief/attitude?
What disadvantages will I have physically/emotionally/spiritually if I hold on to this belief/attitude?
What advantages do I have if I free myself from my disturbing belief pattern/attitude?
How does it feel when I imagine that I have already freed myself from this disturbing feeling?

Try to answer them as best as you can and then go act and do the stuff that you were most afraid of.
When you start answering these Question honestly you will cripple your selfdoubt and anxiety, then it becomes way easier to do the things that you are afraid of.

And after that you will be rewarded with great Confidence and inner peace. Believe me i did them a long time ago and still do it everytime i sense a negative thought in myself. Now, iam so confident that i literally do NOT care what other people who don't know me very well think of me.

And iam someone who had a realy bad case of social phobia and depression. I also came to a point in my life where i wanted to end it, but thats a very long time now and i came so far on my journey that iam so thankful for every minute on this planet. Just try it guys everything is possible, believing is key. 😎😎👌👌

The person in the background took a sip of milk after you started talking about taking a dump.😂

11:30 Can we say that our identity is defined by our current actions i.e. thing that you're doing right now, at the moment? And if that is the case, then, can we also say that two or more humans doing same things within a definite time frame, given they are at the same place, are no different whatsoever?

Rejection sensitivity syndrome - That sounds familiar. I guess I have it on some level. It spoils my game time, and I'm basically dropping off my controller and keyboard.

I still am not saying that gaming is the problem here, but it's over other parts of my life.
I have no friends, and social culture here is bs, so try to do anything without alcohol...

I'm confident with executing plans and going along, but not really being in front and first.
I can't start conversations really, at least couldn't in school, but I've always known that adult people follow some basic rules in conversations, and uphold basic levels of respect for others as part of the egoistic mask, for whatever reason.
If they see me really worthless or not worth of the time, they wouldn't do even that.
Usually I would see the points that would either point at either them being in hurry, or that they think they are big and buff.

I would like to find that confidence to stand before those people who carry inflated egos.
It has always been something I've never understood, and something I've been somewhat scared of.
I feel bit nasty for thinking about playing around with the size of my own ego, but that shouldn't matter right?
I was like seven or eight when I first time faced someone that had built up some sort of ego for themselves, who was same age, and they used it to just insult me, and to just reinforce their own ego.
I was ok with the insult, but I didn't understand why would someone do something like that to someone just to inflate their ego and started crying.

I have some level of dysmorphia, and I feel either fat, or something that has never changed, and my body has changed its size multiple times. Im not so worried about my body, but I can't really think it's any different. What I think it is that it is fat or lower mid.

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That's feel so right. I don't feel bad but because I sacrificed my life for my mom. I feel like I have no value to be loved and don't find it valuable to cultivate relationships.

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I'd like to figure out who I am ASAP 23 now. I want the rest of my life to be healthy and happy, and spread both of those out to as many people as I can.

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is having an ego a good thing or a bad thing?

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