What 85 years of research says is the real key to happiness | Robert Waldinger: Full Interview

I wonder how this study is specific for the USA..

84 years of research and this is the best shit they can come up with???.
All these psychological professionals need to see some combat then ask themselves how they feel.

Staying an intensely negative intimate relationship “MAY” be better than breaking up. Come on…. The psychiatrist needs to take a communication class.

All people are different. I do everything my way. there are over 8 bil people in the world

While I appreciate what's being said not a lot of REALITY in there
Some ppl have no friends family or anyone to care about them!
Some ppl just can't find a good life due to others actions as well

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I do respect Mr. Waldinger's ideas, but I can't completely agree with them. Yes, having a companion, who is not, because this person is all the time plunging her face on a screen must be terrible. However, at the same time, trying to avoid this learning to pay attention to someone else sounds mechanical to me. I believe, and that's what I do, that being with somebody else is meaningful and that's why we're together. Otherwise, we should follow separate ways. Thanks for sharing all these wonderful videos, Big Think.

Superb presentation. Thank you

The zen stuff should've been in a different video. This video is about the study. It honestly comes across as discrediting.

This has been very enlightening. With so many nuggets. I detached from people cos they always took advantage of my kindness to hit me up for money. I'll feel bad if I didn't help but it didn't make me feel good either when they won't refund but always be needing more. I isolated and bought stuff instead. TV Now I'm older I feel lonely at times. This talk has shown me ways I can build community and healthy relationships. I'm more optimistic going forwards

This sounds like one of the most dangerous explorations in higher education. I wonder where all the participants (and their families) are.
I had no idea that "biology" meant that the ecosystem that the person politically and socially lives in can kill their humanity in stress and lonliness. I learned from this video that Zen Buddhism is just a holding tank for torture during suffering in life.

What if the people in your life are the ones that are causing the stress?

So they were only interested in what makes men happy and have fulfilling healthy relationships? It would be so much more interesting to do both men and women, then compare.

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If you really want to find out about happiness psychology is a far better equipped profession for these answers. You can bet that most of the research this person is basing his spiel on comes from psychology anyway, not psychiatry. Given the large proportion of untreated malignant narcicists in the world today it is highly doubtful that having a large number of relationships with other people may not bring the benefit one wants. So the reseach he quotes may be outdated.

Wow,you are a jerk!!!!

Takeaways for me:
- Relationship with other human beings is the key to happiness.
- Genetics and childhood experiences do matter. Still, there's a lot that you can do to become happier.
- The healthier--deeper, closer, and more trusting--the relationship is, the better.
-The optimal number of friends depends on who you are. See what you are most comfortable with.
- Even if you don't have great relationships right now, you are not screwed forever. Any pleasant human contact--no matter how small and transient it is--does contribute to happiness.
- Become a regular to a place. Maybe a place where you can do something you enjoy with others or where you can help someone. Relationships will start to grow organically.
- "Attention is the most basic form of love."
- Nothing stays the same; everything changes. You, other people, the world, everything.

- Life is a suffering means that there's always going to be something that you don't like about the way things and people are.
- There is no enlightened person. No one's enlightened all the time. There's only enlightened activity.

I'm calling BS on this. This guy is firing his own bias on to us. Most studies nowadays are funded by corporate and government interests. They want you to think and behaviour a certain way. Psychology is by the most stupid industry, principle, whatever you want to call it. It tries too hard to find meaning to human behaviour. Do this and you'll be this, be like this and you'll get this.

I'm sick and tired of constantly being told what to do. We should all aim to express our inner selfs without fear of judgement and tribalism. Just be you. I feel like that is happiness?

Chop wood, carry water - enlightenment- Carry water, chop wood … this talk, the most uncomplicated and sophisticated explanation of the / a path to happiness …

Listening to this is making me stressed because everyone I trusted betrayed me in some way… people don’t care, they use others

The calmness oozing out of Robert’s personal makes the video more effective 😊. Loved it ❤.

Happiness is beer and meat

The phrase 'Never worry alone' really stuck with me. It’s a simple but powerful truth about human connection.

Lonliness is stressor. Okay. But why hasn't the brain evolved enough in those white men you studied to figure out how to treat potential partners with the love and respect needed to cure that? Seems that they search out ways to stay lonely to appear 'manly' all while having the opposite effect of wanting to be connected.
What I see irl, is people treating others with intense disrespect and disregard as the try to be in some nebulous group of 'most important' because that's what makes them happy, the idea of being seen as important even though the rest of the people laugh at their sad insecurities.
And money buys security which is peace of mind and that is happiness.

My happiness comes from Christ who forgave all my sin.

Amazing content as always!