The TRUTH About ADHD in Adults | The Mel Robbins Podcast
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More and more adults are being diagnosed with #ADHD, so today, we are unpacking the 6 surprising signs of ADHD. I also tell you why so many women, in particular, go undiagnosed.
I've also been on Adderall for like almost a decade, with my interceanial insults it fucking yes helps. In the back of my brain during the nuero didn't even light up trying to say the alphabet backwards. OMG 😢 Mel I hit my head on a 3 ton water truck at 13, I would love to talk nuero placidly, and how like lithium heals, yet can be toxic causing the tragedy of insight and inside because I know what is up how physical decline is there and be able to help educate on like chronic traumatic encephalopathy, pituitary tumors, lesions, cognitive decline the thoughts with it how they ruminate possibly help teach. I'm on palliative care by specialist at 48, and not 1 doctor can understand what. I've done the moca scoring 21/30 and the nuero cognitive computer test 47/100 yet I know I could still be a 4.0 in school fucked up. How to accept fund gratitude, pain dysphasia with the absolute highest stress environment, loss of kids grandkids. I really feel like you can help at least get interests started with multiple things uncertainty exapinetial anxiety. ❤ You know I have been a loyal listener since Ted talks. You are the biggest inspiration.
In this episode, we go deep into what ADHD is: a neurological disorder that affects the #brain structurally and chemically. I explain the signs and the #science behind what is going on in your brain to help you live a better life.
If you ever wondered if you have ADHD, if you feel like menopause is making it worse, or if you struggle with #anxiety, an eating disorder, or low self-esteem, you have to listen. All these might be symptoms of ADHD.
@ 70 years old ! Now l know l have it !!
Life kept me busy all along .. Now l had the time to think bout myself n reflect on my past and present !! But doubts have crossed my mind couple f times n l consulted with 2 family doctors… and an educator… They all brushed me off that am ok… do not think bout it… it s a childhood thing and goes off with age … What a loss of life… Am still at beginning n not sure I will find solutions for me n some kids nd grand kids !! But at least the fight r flight mode shod ease down after caused me lots f troubles n my health !!!
Mel… Love you more now with this genuine concern and vulnerability so to help others 🎉 You are the best nd your podcasts is a fix on my everyday YouTube 🙏🙏🙏
This episode goes way beyond an inability to focus, because ADHD is so much more. This is an education in how your brain works, how focus works, and how to help yourself or someone in your life who may have ADHD.
Today you’ll learn:
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- Why women have been profoundly underdiagnosed
- Four key differences between genders with ADHD
My wife recommended this video to me but I really don’t think I have………squirrel!
Why do you have to fuckin’ swear so………squirrel!
- Why my diagnosis was both a blessing and a curse
- The surprising way most women find out
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- Six symptoms of ADHD that most people don’t catch
- The connection between anxiety and depression and ADHD
Struggled for the same thing since elementary. Was just diagnosed at 27.
- Resources and hacks to help you take charge over your symptoms
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Thank you! Life changing!
00:00 Intro
05:20 The surprising backdoor way I was diagnosed with ADHD.
Hi tha ks for this video great to look out for girls i have a wife and two daughters. But I must be a girl because you described my life to a T with the 'girl' adhd. It is called inattentive a d this applies to men and women. This is my life exactly. From primary school until to at 43 years old. Just found out the other day that this is inattentive add. Not hyperactive. Hope you take this in to account. Thanks love your podcasts
08:34 What I learned about the “lost generation” that has blown me away.
10:41 A terrifyingly important statistic that led to this podcast episode.
So needed to hear this today. Thank you xx
11:45 The definition of ADHD that may make you feel better about yours.
13:51 Why are women under-diagnosed? The differences in symptoms.
You havnt once so far mentioned substance misuse. I turned into an alcoholic, rehad 3 times, shaved hair off, britney spears did that years after i did! Now i have a ketamine addiction! How the hell do you get diagnosed? My doctor thinks im a bloody depressed woman n gives me happy pills, for years n years. I fractured my head when i was drunk, now the neurologist rings me once a year to ask how i am, thats if he remembers! I feel shit n do think of killing myself. I wouldnt have to suffer then would i 😅
23:25 This is how ADHD impacts your brain.
25:51 A really clear metaphor to explain how your brain silences noise, or doesn’t.
How can i get a diagnosis for whatever is wrong with me, im nearly 65 n have struggled all my life with being me, my daughter was taken off me at 7, ptsd i think followed, i was a good mum but turned to drink, went to rehab 3 times, got better but they still took her. The social services are shite i hate the lot of them. The doctors just give me anti depressants, thats it. Bollocks to the lot of them
36:52 How is it I have ADHD, yet I can hyper-focus?
42:42 More surprising symptoms of ADHD that might make your relationships hard.
I was diagnosed at 44 it all made sense, then being medicated is life changing ❤
43:55 This one hack helps me get birthday gifts for others on time.
45:14 The jobs I loved because they worked well with ADHD.
I swear I would not be here without you! You have completely changed my life, I've been following you for the last four or five years now. I have a Let ~Them t-shirt, Let~ them Attitude and a 54321 method throughout the day! Thank you so much Mel
I wrote my own book and I want to publish it just like you did. If there's any way we could talk one day I would truly appreciate it. I kind of feel like I'm going to blow you away with my story. I've already manifested being on your show. You are my f**** hero 💞😂😭🫶👑🙌🎯🥊🥀🌹🏳️💜😇💎 ∆ If nobody told you today that they love you ∆ Kris loves you ✓
I AM F**** PROUD OF YOU DUDE YOU HAVE COME A LONG WAY AND I'M SO GRATEFUL THAT I GOT TO WATCH!!!!!!!!!🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🫠😊
49:06 Now here’s the good news!
53:06 A predictive statistic about children that you’re going to want to hear.
Thank you. Thank you for this episode and ALL you do!!! I can not find the links for the resources like the questionnaire, really just for fun because I KNOW IT ALREADY!!! LOL
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Thank you so much for this episode. I’m 57yrs old. I’m going to give myself permission to have a private diagnosis. The 12 steps has been my life jacket. I know now I have ADHD.
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Wow! Thank you Mel. I know this is an older video but you have described me to a T! I’m 73 and so sad I am just figuring this out. My sister has the same thing and finally got some medication which has made a profound difference. I am hoping the same for me. Thank you so much for making it so clear and easy to understand. 🤗♥️
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Just diagnosed at 63. I got tested at the suggestion of my daughter-in-law. Sad thinking about what could have been, but excited to move ahead.
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Good explanations but I have to wonder if you needed adderall to do this video or if you were able to focus without it. BTW both my kids were ADD from my Ex and my son only need meds only part time. He learned to adapt. His sister however has too many other problems.
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We love you too, Mel! ❤ And yes, I am one of them. 58, selfdiagnosed waiting for a call from our public low cost mental health provider for an appointment. But it's going to be worth it!
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Could you do a video on things that have helped you be successful since realizing you had ADHD? I was just diagnosed at 27 😭
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My BFF was diagnosed 10 years ago, but has done nothing to get help, except tried a couple of medications, for short durations. No pity. Too much dysfunction
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this is me and my son 100%
@beckymacdonald5617Hi everyone! Coming back to this video after 1 month
Mel opened my eyes and ACTUALLY helped me
Did I cry watching this video? yes
Did I take ADHD test? Yes
Do I have ADHD? yes
Now I understand a lot of things. I was not crazy, I was not lazy.
Even if only one person is reading this: it's OK if you need help. Help is good. We will be fine. You're stronger than you think :)
With love from France :)
My son was just diagnosed at 6 years old and my younger son who is 4 we think he has it too also my partner is gonna go through the process of getting his self assessed as well because he struggles with so much in life but at 40 years old he thinks that it’s a waste of time because he’s too old and what will medication do for him and that it won’t help him but I’m praying that this week he gets a referral from the doctor to finally go get treatment
Also his older son who’s 18 is showing signs of adhd as well and is also struggling in life but he’s stubborn too and says nah I don’t need to get tested il be fine maybe I would of got tested when I was a kid but now I’m not doing it and he don’t wanna pay for it either
Man. I haven't even fished the video, but man. I'm 27 and feel like my life has been stunted by things that I assumed responsibility over and I virtually have no self esteem now. I feel unworthy of love. I have experienced literally everything youve talked about. Next week I'm going to be screened by the clinic who might end up doing my test, if they approve to do it. I feel really nervous because I have been labeled as other things my entire life. But I am so desperate. I can't continue like this. I'm so scared that I'll be dismissed. I am so exhausted.
@Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa4aaaaaaaaaThank you. Struggling is my life. I m trying to get help now
@lindamullin8309Me, for sure!!!!!!!!! Its been my entire life
@adelinaleon4745What medicine do you take being older with adhd?? I’m 66.
@kimberlyzembruski9098I am in tears hearing you describe the whole me. I can't complete many things because I can't stay focus long enough to get anything done.😢😢
@GainesConnieThank you, Mel. I was diagnosed in my 50s
@JoyousNeemaThe library setting is me!!! Omg
@dAm_bang9185As a 41m just getting diagnosed, I heavily disagree with your framing around how different it presents in the genders and I think explaining it this way does harm to men for those of us without the external hyperactivity.
I'm sure girls are under diagnosed but boys are too. This is a big problem with society. I just wish we wouldn't put up barriers when it comes to education
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I was diagnosed with ADHD, age 60. While late, I'm grateful to know & be here. Thank you. ❤
@Patriot4JC❤ you too Mel! Take care! You are such an inspirational speaker! Thankyou for sharing your personal story and bringing awareness to our mental health!
@kimngatran6271Thankyou Mel! Great information! I have always been fascinated of learning about :"Mental illness, ADHD, and the psychology of a human brain!". I do believe, these symptoms that you described, live within us and among us! So we have to encourage ourselves to learn about the illness, n regularly check out ourselves self check n learn more about this!
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@AbundancewithbonnyI'm a 60 year old female with dyslexia and pretty sure I'm ADHD. I have found it's nice to have a best friend that is ADHD. Her and I can talk about 3 or 4 different things in the same conversation. And even pick back up on a topic days later like it was just minutes ago. I am never on time, I don't see clutter and I have several projects all going at the same time, but most never get finished.
@danadarnell4329Same here
@hebamohamedelmeligui298072 and realise now why I am like this. My husband refers to me as butterfly brain. Thank you for enlightening me.
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@PaulaPetraruThis would be so great if you didn't use curse words. Please try not to use curse words. I will have to tell my friends not to listen because of that. Please try to do better
@marthamoore8270I was diagnosed recently and looking back on my life and the things I struggled with that I didn’t understand why, now all of a sudden makes complete sense
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