The Science Behind Dramatically Better Conversations | Charles Duhigg | TED

I now have conversations with ChatGPT only

What a nice talk!! Also funny an memorable. If he were selling something, I'd buy it. So, I buy it ☺️.

I want to use what I learned when I talk with my friends .

Man this guy is annoying

This may be the most powerful TED video I've watched! So directly applicable and actionable. Loved it!

You go to the doctor for medical advise, not for a therapy session... It is great to be aware people have different expectations from a conversation, but it is much more helpful they take responsibility for their role in conversations.

This guy needs experts to teach him that talking to people means being able to listen well... this is why psychology gets so much criticism.

Just "Wow" podcast ❤

Please YouTube recommend me this type of videos❤

I conversation to essay

This was incredibly useful because good conversations really do change every part of life from friendships to business to confidence. The part about asking deeper questions and actually making people feel understood stood out the most. Most conversations stay surface level because people listen just to reply instead of trying to connect. And really liked how practical everything was. Small changes in the way we talk and listen can completely change the quality of our relationships. Definitely one of the most valuable TED Talks I’ve watched in a while.

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Try not being boring for almost 12 minutes

“When was the last time you cried in front of someone else?”

“Emotions conversation “
“Deep Questions “
“What do you love about your job?”
“What was high school like?”

I love this framework for approaching conversation — however I genuinely think the overwhelming vast majority of answers to the main question will be: a) I don’t remember a time of that b) I don’t feel comfortable sharing.

Though, I’m sure once you find someone who doesn’t answer with either of those, it may be rewarding.

Great Talk, thanks alot ❤😅

After a doctor told me that instead of an immediate solution (surgery) you can actively monitor it for the next few years with visits twice a year.

The active monitoring sounds like a absolute money drain especially in the US

Anyone that wants to take body language and communication seriously, the book "how to win friends and influence people" written in 1936 addresses this topic in a less pedantic way. Understanding communication is not a new topic

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우리는 이것을 T와 F라고 구분하기로 했어요.

It’s actually simple. Just shut up and listen to that person that needs to talk. Your advice won’t change anything, they’ll feel better and decide what to do after they feel they’ve been listened to. A good conversation is to stay as quiet as possible

He fumbled and then fumbled again
Struggled with pacing of his voice, tone and pitch
But atlast it's about how you handle it and that's what sets people like him apart from majority!

But it’s different when the experiment is in a study or real life because of the source of the order
If an outside authority figure makes us talk about crying, that differs fundamentally from if I’m the one who initiated

I vehemently disagree with this advice.

I was going to give Mel Gibson a thumbs up, still do. But not one iota goes to the uneducated non journalist dummkopf who knows nothing about Canadian Politics. Or Canada for that matter. 🤢

If I asked someone I just met how they feel about their job I would not get an honest response. They would say I feel fine, and look at me like I'm a weirdo.

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Hi I am linet I am looking for a friend indeed and help

TED talk this good.

Emotional conversation = how do you/we feel

Practical conversation = what is this really about(problem and solution oriented)

Social conversation = we we are(identity) and how do we relate to each other and society

you lost me at 1:20 when you "come home to your wife and start complaining about your day.".. Wth is wrong with you? Aren´t you the man in the relationship?

Americans... asking someone that in the uk that isnt a alphabet person will get you stabbed

Good advice. Bad example. Who TF goes to the Dr. if not for medical advice?! Don’t get me wrong I worked in clinical healthcare and there were THOSE patients who did this. But in general, I’m gonna raise an eyebrow if my Dr. asked me that after diagnosing me with cancer.

First thing is to get the person you're speaking to is to put their mobile phone down and stop being distracted by garbage.

Me I’m a very opinionated person. I’m very expressive. Never intimidated nor shy. I love talking. And I’m direct to the point. I’m deep too. I’m not a shallow person.

I love when the Anglo-American small talk culture is realising that it is not even close to human interaction, no matter how many Wutherin Heights will be distributed around the world… and now they are setting up science to be able to prove that it’s ok to ask real questions from another person and it is ok to get closer and get to know each other… welcome to Europe! You used to say everyone is so “rude”, and “blunt” here but on the contrary: we were the normal all along and asked: what do you like about your job instead of meaningless what do you do…

I started using Jobbyo recently and the experience has been smooth. Job listings are easy to browse, and the overall process doesn’t feel complicated or overwhelming.

Modern science and sociology: conversation and humans are complex. Humans are emotional, let them be emotional by asking questions

Ancient spiritual practices: be mindful of others and be compassionate in your conversations. The other person may be focused on a problem that isn’t the topic of the current conversation

People will tend to be defensive during a conversation when challenged or their beliefs are challenged…..even if they ask a question and you respond with a truthful answer.

The ego is powerful and most people have no idea that is what is controlling their decisions

When you talk to a surgeon you should expect solutions and not be wasting both his and your time dumping your emotions on him. The fault was most definitely with the patients not the surgeon.

I think this is awesome.

But it’s also kind of disappointing that we no longer have the ability to connect with our fellow humans naturally.

Too many distractions and division.

This guy wrote "Supercommunicators"

Beautiful speech! Clear core message presented in a simple manner. For a 10 minute talk, I don't feel overwhelmed with information at all, all the supporting devices really made that one message stick. Bravo.

I thought you did really well with this when we were on a recent livestream panel together.