The power of listening | William Ury | TEDxSanDiego

Thank you so much for this wonderful inspiring talk!! I will now take it as a reference for the next episode of my Tango podcast! Because this dance is a lot about listening as well!!

Great lesson, never thought like this before

what a great video, please meet mr. trump and listen to what he wants so we can stop this war

PS: Btw Bro 😎 the TREES 🌳 in the FOREST are NOT ALONE ⚠️ The FOREST is ALIVE NOT DEAD ☠️ You just DON’T want to KNOW 🧠

BRAVO 👏

Listening is often overlooked, yet it is one of the most important parts of effective communication. Many people focus on expressing their own ideas but don’t take the time to truly understand others.
From my experience, active listening can prevent misunderstandings and create stronger connections between people. It requires not only hearing words, but also paying attention to meaning and emotions. In my opinion, developing strong listening skills is essential for both academic success and everyday interactions.

Ah yes, with the power of listening, you can put dictators in a good mood. Genius! Take that, democracy!

What I found most interesting was " before listening you must take a moment of silence to listen to yourself." This Showed me that many people think they are listening to the other person or party, but how can one listen to somebody if you can't even listen to yourself first.

This talk is a great reminder that listening isn’t passive, it’s a skill that can change how we connect with others. This definitely inspired me to slow down and actually hear what people are saying instead of planning my response, something that matters in every part of life.

I liked Ury’s point that listening is a negotiation tool, not just politeness—it lowers defensiveness and gets people more willing to work with you (the Chavez story proved it). The only downside is it sounds easier than it is when emotions run high. I will use this by asking more questions, summarizing their concerns, and listening for the need behind the demand before I make an offer.

I like how he talks about listening being the cheapest concession we make in a negotiation, and how it costs us nothing and brings so many benefits, also that we need to be practicing it every day. I am not sure if there is anything I didn't like in this video because it is a good concept in theory to work towards. I will try and use this information to be a better listener, when he talks about so much noise and distraction going on I completely understand that. I will try and practice just listening better.

Thanks alot prof. William Ury For Your Well Prepared Lecture and I have learnt you alot about listining❤

"when you talk, you only repeat what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new."

Understand, connect, get to yes

Thanks this will help me alot

You should listen to your own president now.

The power of listening....you learn something. lol *sarcasm from an introvert.

Absolutely phenomenal talk. Thank you!

My listening is not good I can not understand additionally I have ILTES exam as soon😢😢😢
What should I do

i can't even listen to the whole ted talk.. omg; i think my brain is damaged. ill try again but it's not going too well.

One of the eye opening TEDx Talks (I propose Listens) that I have ever listened. This is remarkable. Thanks

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one of the best podcast in the world for me

I agree listening to understand others

What I liked about the video is the idea that listening is powerful, not passive. So, by Ury reframes listening as an active skill that can change outcomes, not just something polite you do while waiting to talk.

What I like about the video is the emphasis on listening to what is not being said, the underlying emotions, feelings, and needs. I feel like this is important because in order to truly listen to someone, you have to first understand meaning behind their words. Often times, people will listen to you but not truly get what you are trying to say. This is especially common in negotiations or debates where nether side can see eye to eye because they are too focused on their own perceptions. There was nothing I particularly disliked about the video as I feel like it was informative and interesting to hear. I will use this information if I ever encounter someone who has a issue with me or someone else. My goal will be to understand them and how to make it right as opposed to just trying to win, even if I may not agree.

I agree with what he says because in today’s world, many people don’t truly listen. They may be physically present, but they aren’t fully engaged in the conversation. If we listened the way he described, we could avoid many conflicts. I especially liked the point that the more you genuinely listen, the more you inspire others to listen as well.

Many people need to watch this TedTalk, especially the younger generation. Nowadays, people listen to respond, not to understand. So many people are more selfish nowadays, that they like to hear the sound of their own voice, rather than getting a response. People from older generations do this as well. Though, you also need to listen to yourself. We sometimes silence our own inner voices, because we’re tuning into others needs or are too afraid to speak on them.

That's my homework

This is one of the best talks I have 'listened' to about listening. Thank you, Sir.

👂 Listening is the most underrated power move.
Manipulators?
They listen like PhD researchers 📚🧐
Victims?
They talk like they’re hosting a podcast nobody subscribed to 🎙️😂

Here’s the trick: the more you talk, the more keys you hand over 🔑, your mood, your secrets, your weak spots, even your entire Google Drive of thoughts 📂.
Meanwhile, the manipulator just nods politely, quietly downloading your brain like free Wi-Fi 📥💻.

But when you speak less 🤫, every word becomes rare, valuable, and mysterious 💎. People lean in, they overthink it, they even get nervous 😳.

Talk too much though, and you’re basically giving someone the blueprint to break into your head 🧠, rearrange the furniture 🛋️, and set up camp 🏚️.

And the scariest part? 😶‍🌫️
By the time you realize there’s an intruder, the voice in your head might not even be yours anymore… 👂🕯️👻

woah

This video helped me a lot Thank You

Why Listening is important ( KEY)

To Understand
To Connect
To Get To Yes
and Many More

The opening debate question has always made me question mankind.

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That's why we have 2 ears and 1mouth ..listen twice as much as you speak.. if you listen carefully you show respect to yourself and to the person you talk to.. paying attention to details is so important.

Listening is wisdom listening is learning listening is peace listening is patience. Listening is a gift from GOD .
THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IS PATIENCE LOVE PEACE JOY FAITHFULLNES GENTLENSS GENEROUSITY AND SELF CONTROL [ galatians 5:22:23]

14:08 Ted x listen 😂

Wonderful

Listening in intense conflicts... without discussing trust? Isn't that really demonstrating NOT listening to the concerns in such situations? Using political conflict situations as examples, but not acknowledging (not "hearing") the intelligence of the audience enough to admit that those examples given involve intense levels of protocol and procedure ironed out through hundreds of years of diplomacy and precedent?

Listening is essential to complete communication.

It helps us understand not just words, but emotions and intentions.

Good listening builds trust and connection.

It allows us to see the bigger picture in conflicts ("the third side").

Listening empowers others to express themselves.

It promotes collaboration and resolution.

A culture of listening can lead to more harmony and understanding.

Great!

Listening is a key that build strong relationship in an organisation because through listening you can solved strong conflict

For Deaf, Eye by Eye.

When I was a kid, my parents didn't listen, when I was speaking to the doctor he didn't listen, when I was pushed into the room with a psychologist she wasn't really listening, only trying to get an angle on me to force me into a corner, when I was speaking to my boss, he wasn't really listening. I am mired in hopelessness and hate for this reason.

thank you soo much sir and ted x