Strict parents are ruining a generation…

If there are kids who grow up this way, they're going to think it's normal, or they're not going to think anything else is normal; being treated with kindness will make them uncomfortable. Like i was raised to wear modest clothes; nothing crazy, just don't show private body parts, so I wear a lot of jeans and leggings and jackets, so when I wear a swimsuit I feel extremely exposed; like I'm uncomfortable.

My parents aren't really strict like the parents of the people in the videos, but I still feel like I can't really leave to be on my own, even though I have several people who would let me stay with them rent-free so I could get a job and get up on my feet. Is there a word for that?

I also have strict parents.. they both are married and my father has horrible aggression when it comes down to expressing his feelings which damages me when I try to express myself because he doesn’t listen and my mom changed on me when she married my father.. it’s like she doesn’t let me do anything anymore I can’t hang out with people either or have social media since I’ve been on punishment from it for exactly 6 months over something I did last year. My parents make it nearly impossible for me to follow basic rules because they make me wait so long to get what I want so that if I do slip up while trying to do better they can use that against me so that I can’t get what I want. My past is what represents me in my parents eyes which is why I have horrible mental health issues..

I agree with this video, due to my mother passing away and my father being out of the picture, I was raised by a brother who had his own issues he was very controlling and as a result, I fear authority figures. it wasn’t until I got into a fight with my boss last year when I realized that I had unresolved trauma caused by my brother.

I had an extremely strict mom basically all of my teen years. I feel like she was pretty chill when I was a kid, but once I became a teen and obviously had my own beliefs and things that I wanted to do and wanted a little bit more freedom with like friends and stuff, she started laying down all these strict rules. Some of them I understand, but some of them were just straight up ridiculous. Basically the second I walked through the door the entire time I was a teen, even up until I was like 19, almost 20, I had to leave my phone on a charger by the fridge. I couldn't bring it down in my room, especially not at night. I felt like anytime I wanted to go hang out with friends I felt like I had to wait until she was in a good mood or persuade her, and still, 90% of the time she wouldn't let me anyway. Mind you I didn't have a bunch of people around me who were bad influences by any means. I wasn't sneaking out as a teen, I wasn't going out and partying and drinking, or doing drugs, or anything like that. But since I only lived inside and the only extracurricular things I did in my teen years was just helping her clean the house and helping take care of the 5 younger siblings below me, I feel like it really stunted my social skills and made it so I never got to have any form of like a "party phase" as a teen, and so I am now a 24 year old who is finally experiencing things in my life that I honestly could have and should have experienced when I was like 16 or 17 years old. I am neurodivergent but I wouldn't consider myself on the spectrum, but my social skills are absolutely fried and I struggle in friendships because I just don't know how to socialize normally or just go out and have normal healthy friendships with people, because I didn't get any of that most of my teen years. And even though I wasn't doing anything bad as a teenager, I was still doing sneaky stuff. Would still sneak my phone down in my room probably every night, hang out with people that my mom wouldn't approve of for this or that reason, stuff like that. There's a reason there's a phrase "strict parents make sneaky kids". It's good to have healthy boundaries and rules for your kids so they grow up to be good, healthy people in society, but being overly strict just genuinely stunts them and sets them up for failure.

i am 24 i basically ran away at 20 and met my now husband and ended up pregnant after 3 months. i remember i wasn’t allowed a phone and i was bullied so bad i wanted to leave the earth and they never did anything about that🙃 i wasn’t allowed a job in high school even in the town that i could walk to. the only reason i took drivers ed is because my mom would take me to work with her during the summer and once school started back up i immediately signed up and paid for it. she took 700 from me once that i asked them to set aside. when i asked for it she said it was money i owed her cause she “raised” me for so long. i don’t remember her as much as i remember my grandpa during the my first 10 years. even after i had my son my mom would give me the silent treatment and i bumped into her once and she threw the basket of laundry she had to grab me by my hair. i left at 22 after my dad beat me and my mom told him to kill me. she then followed me outside and “apologized” while still blaming me.

As a Pakistani girl I just don't know what to say cuz I too have these type of parents and I do want to move out at 18 but , I don't have the money , like I even applied some jobs and got them !! But my parents didn't allow me to go . What am I supposed to do ??

i could count the number of times i was allowed to go to after school hangouts from elementary up to grade 11 on my hands, and even then i had to keep constant contact with my mom the entire time — even now I’m turning 19 and she still gets mad at me for hanging out with my boyfriend/bestfriend (the only friends i have now) and has made me stay home on multiple occassions just because she wants me to stay home … her own words. i barely had social skills until i got a job when i turned 17 and even now i’m incredibly behind.

I didn’t even get the freedom of going to school I was forced to homeschool, I liked school. I missed out on EVERYTHING. I do have a boyfriend…surprisingly. And he is literally everything to me. My mom who completely ruined everything for herself (including her relationship with the entirety of my family) got mad and cried and said nobody loved her because I didn’t want to put a tiny house RIGHT NEXT to the disgusting house she raised me in

Yeah, she said that when you're a kid you don't really think responsibilities
But I'm 14 and I'm already thinking about getting a car, job, a house.
So that's not the case for everyone

Kids dont need a phone or to date. You gotta learn to live life. I hate the whole play dating stuff as a father with my daughters. These little boys aint shit and dont know shit and CANT be good because they arent mature yet. I didnt date until highschool. I think thats the line. At least it is in my house. In lower grades you can have your make believe stuff but its not real dating. Youre not gonna be spending time alone with a boy while you live in my house until your in highschool and can drive. Ive got to see and meet them first too.

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I thought it was my fault that I’m too afraid to do anything. But this just sounds like my mom

ive lost my teenage years and so many friendships because of my strict asian paeents and they always refuse to show any trace of empathy or understanding

no boyfriend rules are so stupid. all it's gonna achieve is sneaky kids who you don't know where they are or who they're hanging out with. if i had kids i'd rather them do stuff safely in my home than in a sketchy place because they're not allowed to hang out at home

Amazing video, Jade!
I never really understood strict parents… like.. at all. Why have children if they’re just going to treat them like a doormat? I don’t plan on having children when I’m older, but I just never understood why parents think it’s okay to be cruel. They really do need to realise that making a fuss out of a developing teen isn’t the answer.

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I lwk feel bad for the ppl in these comments who not even allowed to breathe atp💔

I'm turning twenty and I've never left the house on my own. Honestly I'm sort of scared for my future I really don't know what to do with myself. My parents are so strict and kinda obsessive.

Arguments that strict parents "just want to protect their kids" miss a dangerous truth: protection can go very wrong, very fast.Take the case of Amy Courtney. She wanted to protect all three of her children from the world—her newborn baby, her two-year-old daughter, and her son, who news reports say was between three and five years old. To "protect" them from the world, she drowned all three of them in the bathtub.This shows how quickly and drastically protection can go wrong. So, stop saying strict parents just want to protect their kids. History shows that when people try to protect others through extreme control, it can end in disaster. Amy Courtney is just a very extreme example of that.

Yea my parents strict and I’m sneaky asl, they made me transfer schools cause they didn’t like my friends deleted all the numbers they thought were my friends but that never stopped me. Most of my friends had fake names in my phone so I would say I knew them from theater so she wouldn’t delete them. Every time I’m even allowed to hangout I have to lie just so that I’m able to hang out with my actual friends. If you’re thinking “what possibly did your friends do?” Literally nothing besides being gay. I have a job but it’s quite uncommon so they’re always suspicious about it so I’m constantly on edge about what my parents might do because they don’t like my job.

I heavily relate to the saying strict parents create sneaky kids, because I was the sneaky kid, wasn't allowed social media so I created Alt emails under a fake name ect then made accounts at school all so I could talk to my friends bc they didn't have sim cards and my family KNEW THIS, also wasn't allowed more then 2 friends and I got to choose two and I wasn't allowed to have any other ever type shit

This also lead me to doing dr*gs the second someone offered because I had no social skills

Strict parents never benefit the child, you will not have a childhood or a moment without stress. Ts is the reason I've been thinking sense like fucking 8 how I'm gonna move out and where

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This is also true of very neglectful parents. My abusive "father" was both controlling and neglectful at the drop of a hat, though mostly neglectful. For example I couldn't go out of the house basically ever, but he also never checked to see if I even was at home so I could be gone for hours and he'd never notice.
I ended up developing a really bad attachment style due to him, and now I fear basically any social interaction because I was never taught how to be social

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I respect the girl who's mother who threw trash in her bed for not snapping and just absolutely giving her mother a massive taste of her medicine.

All of my friends have very strict parents, one of them can never do anything because her mom wants her home right after school and one for some reason is never allowed in anyone elses car (her dad has meant my parents at my sweet 16) and my other friend wasnt able to go to my sweet 16 because her brother couldnt chaperone her, she wasnt allowed to join a club at the all boys school near by if her brother didnt also join and just much more stuff going on with them and I feel like my friends have way less life experience than me with some things
like no one is asking you to let your kid go to parties with no adults late at night or to be like ehhh you can vape and drink a little but trust me, if you let them have some freedom they wont become bad kids obviously some kids will still be but strict parents create sneaky kids
8:50 last year in sewing club we made pillows with day of the dead fabric (and some other fall patterns) and my friends mom ripped it up and thew it out because there was a skull on it

My parents are religiously abusive. This year I started sneaking around to actually live my life and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself

8:08 Girl same, because my brother missed cleaning our cat’s litter box one day, and the crazy bitch literally took the bag of cat shit and put it on his pillow 😭 like wtfffff

I’m turning 17, and my mom still refuses to let me get a license, job, or hang out with friends. I have no phone, really no social medias, and she sets restrictions on my WiFi. Not only is my mom crazy and narcissistic, but she’s also very strict. It gets to a point where it’s not to protect your kid(s) anymore, it’s about your need for control and proof that you’re the “authority”. As well as the fact that many parents that are “strict” typically are severely abusive to their children and are stunting their growth. And then they’re shocked when their kids are upset and cut them off for their behavior because what they did permanently damaged/stunted their child?

My stepmom was the strict one. I couldn't breathe without getting in trouble. If I failed a test, I would have panic attacks. I had my room stripped, posters taken off the walls and everything. My dad just let her do everything. I would have to wait to go to my mom's for medical treatment (like doctors, dentists, ect.), cause they wouldn't "have the money". But would get a new vehicle or fancy things. Wasn't allowed to go to my own grandmother's funeral cause she didn't want me staying with anyone but them and took me WITHOUT Telling anyone that they took me. That's barely scratching the surface.

Now I don't talk to my dad at all unless he's at my grandfather's and no one likes her.

Scared is what they are y’all have no idea

Needed this. I have a strict parent who was damaged by my grandparents who is now a hoarder to the point where my bedroom is a storage room and I sleep in the living room as a 21 year old for over a year. Everytime I put my foot time she regresses so best believe I’m going to find a partner and leave her behind. That’s one of many things but I never had a childhood so why should I stick around for adulthood?

This is so real 😭 I'm broken because of how my mother treated me. I'm grateful I don't have to deal with her ever again

6:56 yeah no, that’s just abuse.

ngl the 9pm curfew i assumed she was talking about her as a kid but AS AN ADULT YOUR MUM IS GIVING YOU A CURFEW?? WTF

My parents were strict that was a big reason as to why I left for university I wanted my freedom and I knew college was a way to get it . My dad was ridiculous sometimes he would get upset with me if I came home “late” when in reality it wasn’t even late . In the winter the sun goes down at 4pm -5pm. I wanted to play winter spots but couldn’t because my dad would scold me for coming home when it was dark out . I couldn’t stay for the after school practices so I just stopped trying to play sports in the winter I only played spring sports .

My BF's friend has strict parents: monitoring his phone, alarms set every night on EVERYTHING. Dude can't even search shit because search engines are banned. That guy is extroverted as hell and has secretly started doing weed, alcohol, he even accidentally did fent gummies once like omg.

a girl i went to school with had really strict parents. like she couldn't listen to any pop music. only country and gospel. she couldn't cut her hair. she couldn't wear pants or shorts, only long skirts. she wasn't allowed to read anything that was fictional or watch anything fictional. Her mom kept her out of Sex Ed because it wasn't 'appropriate'.

Flash forward to her graduating and going to college and what do you know? She got a bunch of tattoos, a bunch of piercings, started doing drugs and now she's pregnant. Her parents have disowned her and she's staying with baby daddy.

So fucking sad man