Master The Art Of Conversation (Using Psychology)
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Tired of boring small talk that goes nowhere? In this video, youâll learn the psychology behind how to have better conversations â how to create real connection, and exactly what to say to make it happen.
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18:26 I am the one with these things... but I guess if they become comfortable I will too?
I don't think I've ever had one of the type of conversation talked about in this video outside my family
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Iâve also noticed that when you let people share their memories with you, especially details about stuff they havenât shared with people, they also become an interwoven part of it. Thatâs why you also become important after a deeper conversation
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Pisses me off, when I pay every month not to listen to commercials, yet, now they build it inside the video. Shame on you
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good topic, bad hook, boring words. i know you meant well, but maybe speak a little bit more variable? i can't focus much
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stopped watching and unliked soon as you mentioned ai
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Thanks i needed this
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I just hate feeling like I ask too many questions and that theyâll get annoyed.. but as long as it is reciprocated I guess itâs probably fine Iâm just super introverted so it feels forced
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@4:22 60% of the time, it works every time - Brian Fantana (Anchorman: The Legend of Ron Burgundy)
This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case.
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Step 1: They have to be interested!
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60% of the time, it works - every time
@SocialMagnetLabGreat talk but I will confess "Will it work all of the time?" "Yes, 60% of the time" made me smile
@FiftyTRoadGardenCottagim comfortable talking to strangers
@x.rzhyveAre you the voice of Sassy the Sasquatch?
@Rider65091mm the thing is im not interested in knowing??
@nanachihiroThis is like boring conversation 2.0
@NikitaNikita-z3zThis was so monotone
@ThePublicPodWhat I dont like about these videos is people have an expectations once they put this into practice. These are just giving you better cards to play, they arent always a jackpot winning hand.
@brianlogan4243naisu
@SnaiderSanderSo basically interviewing them got it
@Josher_C.who's watching to talk to a girl
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Hay un hilo fino entre la small Talk y el interrogatorio
@lauracarr7386This is some goood stuff. Thank you đ
@briaunahinds6092I always dread the question Where are you from? I was born in Europe but living in the US over 30 years. When people ask me that question the first thing comes to mind is where I am living right now. But for many English speakers it means the same as Where were you born. Usually I feel confused about it because the country where I was born is not the same that it is now. European borders has been changed numerous times over past century, and for most Europeans especially Central and Eastern this question seems too loaded and confusing. Most people align their identity with ethnicity rather than place of birth. My question how to get out of this question gracefully without revealing too much of uncomfortable information but beeing polite?
@annika9020The problem for me is that I'm not interested in learning about other people's life.
@alexandroesquivel9072Honestly I wouldnât know how to answer a lot of these question (like my top 5 favorite movies, a favorite place I visited and why)⊠it reinforces the fact that Iâm not interesting or a good conversationalist đą
@zamz763Why are his dark circles white circles
@OkisesBlah blah blah blah blah.
@raymondhernandez8337That's very real!!! Good video!
@UnspokenAttractionOficialThank you. Thank you, thank you. I always struggle to make a small talk when i meet acquaintances or distant family members, this is so beautiful tool. I cant wait to start practicing!
@MelnestryThanks
@MelnestryWHY DOES THIS ONLY HAVE 1 like out of every 60 views. This is severely underrated!
@PlayfulPurplewhat if your asking then things but they donât ask you the same types of questions?
@munarushiPhysiology was part of a course I took in college...
@mrs.becomes1234Wonderful tips, especially the examples at the beginning ("what was is like growing up there?"). Any chance we could see a video of you having an engaging conversation with someone as an example to see in real life what it actually looks like?
@RinaAnna_SwimmingWhy is this tagged ai?
@dukeofgoobThe only benifit of this way of questioning is that the one asking seems interested, however most of the time, people don't like to answer questions where they have think deeper..or even shallower for that matter
@ronakj3385You looks like carryminati in 2060
@PuneetGOICivilServicesWhy?
@IceMan215928:26 that ! I always got irritated when people talk a lot and faster. This insight you share now make me realize that I can cope with these kinda situations better. Thank you so much đđŒ
@sporter4089People don't dig deep enough, like about themselves, about the things they love to do, reasearch about, want to do, why they want to do,
People don't ask why?
Why are they feeling what they feeling
What's going inside their head, and heart stuff like that
We need to more aware of ourselves
As soul, mind and body
Self talk
Decoding patterns, behaviour etc.
And there is so much.
What we consume is what comes about.
If we , study, learn, read, watch, listen about mindful, meaning ful, purpose full stuff
Then this is will come out
Right
We are what we eat, consume, listen, read, think about.
And that's what we become
My experience over 73 years is this. By listening and letting others talk...always other first, I attracted selfish people who only cared about #1. They talked,I asked wonderful questions. As a nurse I always talked about their health and their experiences. Let me say out loud, that if you are looking for a partner, you must have a reciprocal conversation. Only listening and asking questions brings out the selfish people. I married 2 of them. Tragically they both found other simple minded people to have affairs with because I got tired of the one way street and self centered conversations..please learn from me. You will be worthless to a person of cares nothing for you because you didn't keep the spot light on him. Be very careful with this advice given here
@vivrn53Did you ever get bells palsy. i see your facia movement and i think your one side is week. or just your habit
@MONKEYSTUDIO02this only works with people that actually give a fuck about u btw
@MrsDemoness666I appreciate the video it helps just watch out for contradictions, sir
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