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Active Listening Skills

Video Overview & Insights

Improve your active listening skills, which are a key part of our overall effective communication skills.

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1. Free class and downloads at my website: https://www.alexanderlyon.com/free-resources
2. 30-min. class (free) on Active Listening Skills : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra6L83XwLk

— @alexanderlyon

Update:

- Free Active Listening Skills Training (34 min.): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ra6L83XwLko

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I need to work on the informed response part

— @commenterperson394

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Bro I'm not so good at English and now my study level requires listening lectures from sources where lecturers are speaking English very fluently and I'm unable to catch them without turn on the caption button, any advice so I no more feel difficulty to any person talking English how much fast?

— @AhmadArain-d3i

Active listening skills, which some people call reflective listening, are critical for professionals, leaders, students, parents, customer service, and counselors. In short, active listening is the foundation of effective listening.

As explained in the video, it involves 1) both verbal and nonverbal cues, 2) asking good questions, and 3) giving an informed response.

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The last one 5:41

— @LuctCute-o5p

Videos Mentioned:

Empathetic Listening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lO1gpzakbik

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Listening is Number one i can 20 hours Quran listening
Alhamdulilah ❤

— @abdilahisadiq4270

Comprehensive Listening: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jeUWhn-7HU

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...In addition to what I said, (above, or below).
As I do my Best to Listen to her, when I speak with her, she typicalooks up from her iPad, I start to speak, she turns back to whatever is on the iPad and says nothing because she didn't hear a thing I said. I know this is true because I start saying absurd, random, dramatically disconnected weirdness schitt that might make someone whos listening laugh, but she simply does not respond. It's as if I'm not in the room.
All that to say, I see what looks a lot like a Double Standard here.

— @kellynickell3231

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More User Perspectives

I like what I'm hearing, however if and when I ask Wife for clarification, it just passes her off because she assumes I'm simply NOT LISTENING.
When she's talking and I give a short phrase, or a word of affirmation to show her that I am IN fact Listening, that too pisses her off because in her mind, I'm "Interrupting her".
So, with any slight, or simple demonstration of my affirming what she's saying, is simply Intolerable.
So, naturally, when I DO shut up and say nothing while she's lecturing me, as not to get my ass chewed for Interrupting her, I'm then accused of NOT Caring Enough TO Listen to her.
Granted, I don't automatically look her in the eye when she's TELLING ME something because I feel like the ever errent child who KNOWS he's gonna get his ass chewed no matter WHAT he does.
Plus, I'm Exceedingly ADHD, and Yes, my ADHD in very Problematic for me, and those who have to deal with me for whatever reasons...
I try and cc it only gets worse...
I don't quite know what to do 🤔

@kellynickell3231

Dude, I've had multiple people tell me, "You're not listening," and I didn't even realize I was doing it. I just keep zoning out while they're talking. One person even got mad before it finally clicked.
Seriously, what do I do? How can I stop zoning out and actually stay present when people are talking?

@JesterrV

I usually pay more attention to something else, or while listenig other I just zone out and enter into my mind, dreamy overthinking

@toobanoor-t2g

Thank you

@fahimehrafiei9244

3:04 it is really helpful but it doesnt feel right if someone is noticeably doing this utteringness in automation.

@whereizmybook

I need to work on listening to the answers of the person responding fully. Usually I have the habit of interrupting in between, which I realised is actually not good.

@SanaHasseja-h7z

Tnx❤

@DEMONSLAYER-w

needed this reminder tbh — i catch myself planning my reply instead of actually listening all the time 😅

@BoHail-m8j

for me it will be commitment, i easily tend to zone out in the middle of conversations.

@ngangakayange5429

I need to work on the opposite persons gestures and their expression

@kaarthickv2125

I can't focus on podcasts hence I'm here 😭😭😭

@tanishapaul07

Everyone knows that listening is very important especially at school

@SWfan2012

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@dawiszarins2088

I have a hard time asking good questions, I never know what to follow up with, it's like my brain is just broken

@tlemon7001

I would say that I need to work on good follow up questions.

@Analog_nomad01

I Mean how can we listen to other language speaker accurately ,it takes time to process know ?

@SanjaysreeVathsan

I need to improve my response. I usually just listen to what other people say, not because I'm not interested in the conversation, I just don't know what to reply.

@7btsluv150

I'm 55 years old and learning to practice the correct formula all over again. Now my journey begins.

@Toney-Tygur

I'm by far the worst at not jumping in and talking when someone is in middle of talking non stop to someone else and get excited and end up cutting off person because I'm afraid of losing the insight and amazing new wise thoughts or story I just got FROM LISTENING! very frustrating and very ADHD actions

@tylerbohne9650

It really helped me realize how much of a passive listener i am. I got distracted watching this video. 🤦🏽‍♂️ I need to get better.

@alexdelacruz4677

I really enjoyed your video and these two points of verbal and nonverbal listening are more exciting to me.

@Santiagoedits8

my bomboclart BEST friend needs to improve on all 4

@fearnotjas

No, those little utterances don't tell another person that you're engaged, but instead tell them that you are an american that has recently followed some cheap online course on how to improve your imaginary skills. Just stop shaking your head and repeating "i hear you", "yeehaw" all the time, and people will take you more seriously

@barmalini

Those stock videos are really distracting, I would appreciate just looking and listening to you, instead of having to guess what those models in an office environment represent

@barmalini

I have good listening skills, I just dont want to listen to a lie..

@mrs.becomes1234

Great listening skills, one half of the conversation dedicate to other and to listen her complete story was the amazing part.Thank you for the tips

@kirantraveldiaries

1:30 Um, yes. Yes it is mysterious.

@JustWriter

Thanks

@JacquelineRosanneChemy

This is my biggest struggle with ADHD...because even as I was listening. I had to ACTIVELY keep myself from scrolling into the comments, checking alerts...and when we got to the end of the video I just REALLY needed him to talk faster because my brain kept jumping to an autoconclusion of the video XD

@HouseDeRosa

Responding to what somebody just said

@naveenddlll8717

I need to listen better lol 🤣🤣🤣...

@JacobDover-s4m

I need to work on active listening without thinking anything and distraction.

@shashih.k3215

Alex lying 😂

@GoldenStatz

God loves you and has a plan Jeremiah 29:11.

@Samuel-t8c5n

I need to work on the last part. I wanna deep dive so fast before listening the other side and I am now planning to decrease the amount of that action very slowly and naturally.

@emrecan_entertains

I wasn’t always a talker now I can’t stfu and not interrupt with excitement and stories tha correlates 😢 y can’t I shut up! I speak really well and ask great questions.. I though I was a great listener but not the best

@Earlybird4theworm

This is an interesting video. What made you decide to make it? 😉

@Vis_zzz

Active Listening - 1. Commit, make the concious decision of making the conversation a priority. Relax, breath, slow down, and take your time. 2.

Practice - keep making the attempt whenever engaging in conversations. 1. Non-Verbal Communication, show non-verbally you're listening no distractions. Pay attention to what Non-Verbal cues they're giving you while talking. 2. Verbal communication, ask a good question, after, stop and listen to their response. Using Small utterances - shows and keeps you engaged. Saying a word or two - "yeah" or "I hear you". Doesn't have to be full words, "mm", "ahh". 3. Responding to what someone said - A. You ask a Question, B. They Respond (don't interrupt), C. Informed responds. Show them they've been heard. This can be by asking another question and/or reflecting back what you heard. 4. Keep the focus on them & Let them Talk - make the decision it is about them talking, resist the temptation to jump in. Keep your comments or questions concise. Stick to whatever topic they're interested in. Keep half of the conversation about them.

@SagarSancheti-ie8zl

Explain in hindi

@RajYadav007nsns

I have good listening skills that I've developed over the years, and have the elderly population to thank for that...

@mrs.becomes1234

IM LISTENING

@MarilyKroh-r5z

It would be really interesting if you went on a killing rampage so Netflix could make a movie about it and star Jason Bateman as you.

@drewspinoso4849

Timestamps (Powered by Merlin AI)
00:00 - Active listening is key to building relationships
00:50 - Active listening requires commitment and practice
01:44 - Active listening involves nonverbal and verbal communication
02:25 - Asking good questions is a key aspect of effective listening
03:18 - Active listening involves responding to what somebody just said.
03:58 - Respond actively to what others are saying
04:38 - Active listening requires responding to what the other person said and keeping the focus on them.
05:29 - Improve your listening skills with four tips.

@santoshgaddam83

1) NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION

- EYE CONTACT, NO DISTRACTIONS

2) VERBAL COMMUNICATION

- GOOD QUESTIONS & SEEK CLARIFICATIONS

3) RESPONDING

- GIVE FEEDBACK WHAT YOU UNDERSTOOD.

4) FOCUS ON OTHERS MESSAGE FIRST

- TAKE COMPLETE INFORMATION THEN RESPOND. DONT JUMP IN

@srithejajosyula3869

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