3 Tips for Single People | Fr. Mike Schmitz

Hi, Father Mike.
After the divorce, I have tried to date again and went on a relationship that became horrible for 18 months...
Yet, I would like to date again, while I acknowledge that the marriage nullity process is moving forward.
However, rather than pursuit, dating has become a cat-and-mouse chase and it is exhausting... even taxing, up to the point of making me have second thoughts as I am more inclined to remain single...

He didn’t give me what I wanted…He wanted me to have HIM.

thank u Fr. Mike, God and Mary may bless and hug always all of you

I was at the brink of tears..I really needed to hear that

I just can't be actively open anymore... I'm like 30 now, I'm so tired of dating, so much baggage, so much misandry, too boring. I've given up, I don't want to pursue anything anymore

There in no any woman actively open. For women, Chad or burst.

I’m 47 and never been in a long term relationship w/ a man. So pretty obvious He doesn’t want me w/ anybody

I’m 26 surrounded by people my age, younger and older all married, with kids. I was engaged once and was apart of that club. But now I’m just single in learning to understand it. Thank you Father Mike

2:00 very true. After college I started praying a lot about my vocation, to the point of obsession. Every retreat, every conference, almost every mass.
I realized a couple of years ago... well, if Abraham had to wait 100+ years before being a father, and Sarah giving birth about 100yrs old, fine. I can wait. But he was strong in his faith, faithful to God even as he went through his life, so I decided to work on my relationship with God NOW instead of waiting... and we'll see where God takes me.
I started dating a man just a month ago, after 10, 15 years of not dating. But if he fits into the life God has given me, and i fit into his, then it's meant to be 🥰 plus my parents didn't marry until my mom was 40 years old and she had 3 kids. So God had a plan. We just have to be patient 😅🙏

I always assumed I'd get married and have kids, but by the time I was 25 I had a break-up that hurt like hell. Decided to have a fling with a friend I had a crush on, which left me feeling used. On that day I quit, and pushed the idea of dating just for date sake with men just wanting nothing but the physical. Unfortunately it made me cynical and comfortable in my singleness I guess, and a hermit lol. Its been a decade and truly I've mourned the loss of having a happy healthy family and kids(scared of having kids btw 😅) partly because I'm already mid 30s and too many variables with men today.

The Veruca Salt impression was chef's kiss

Thank you Father

Thank you, Father Mike...

We all want to be seen and known and loved. But will we all marry-- happily? Even if we marry, are we guaranteed children?

I know a lot of incredible souls past 40, 50, 60, single for a thousand reasons valid in God's plan, and they're incredible human beings. Quirky maybe but once you get to know them they're amazing.

What is needed STAT is a pastoral approach to living life as a single Catholic Christian adult.

The STRENGTH a soul needs to live faithfully, joyfully surrounded by families looking happy (and oblivious to them) so, envy, plus the temptation to impurity and worldliness, to despair, destructive mindsets that dont reflect trust in God's goodness, IS IMMENSE. I SALUTE THESE SOULS. We all should. But they do need pastoral care unique to these circumstances and trials.

Longterm and lifelong singleness is a tremendous CROSS but when lived well, in His Grace, like all the crosses, brings God immense glory and brings the soul immense holiness.

at 69 SWM, I saw very little dating at college 74-80, I was at Ohio State no less, it never got better with age, it took me forever to get resources to date, first one at 35, last one at 46 -- I realized then marriage would never happen for me. I also got ulcerative colitis at 20, it forced me to retire early at 56 due to colon cancer -- met at least 4-6 girls in my life that would have been good spouses, but I entered the race too late, having kids was out due to medical issues, once my health was wrecked I was ruined -- I was bitter for a long time, but I realize God had another plan for me, it's not easy to be alone all the time esp. wearing an ostomy appliance -- what happened was not my choice, and it's now my cross -- I missed out on a lot, but I could have died in 2012 due to cancer, life is not what you want, it's what works out, many girls I once knew are now divorced, dead, or still single and never married

https://youtu.be/NOytJlqYKXI?si=c-l_NxUteFmy88Q5

Great advice!! As a single Christian hoping to someday marry this gave me a lot of hope! 🙏

It's a fallen world and I think a life of singleness is seldom from God but mostly a cruel curse from Satan. I always wanted a wife and still do at 77 and it never happened and I lack the faith it ever will because this fallen society respects evil over good because it is seen as strength, and humility is seen by society as weak or people pleasing or some other negative psychology term. It's a fallen world.

I don’t know why anyone would become a Catholic as an adult unless they are Biblically ignorant…which I believe most are.
I was raised in a Catholic household, baptized at birth, received first communion, was confirmed, served as an altar boy, went to confession and participated in other rituals.
I never once experienced the presence of God until about 10 years later when I was on my knees in my living room in 1980.
Wasn’t sure what was happening but God was assuring me that He loved me even though He knew everything about me.
I was overwhelmed by the fact that He could love me amidst my rebellious heart.
The Holy Spirit was convicting me of my sin, and showing me that the only righteousness God would accept was the righteousness Jesus was offering and then also to escape Gods judgement and hell I needed a change of heart.
Interestingly I had never read the Bible yet the things I was experiencing were almost word for word in the Bible.
Why didn’t I ever read the Bible… because we were told something like only the priests could understand it.
That was deceitful and untrue. I thought maybe the Bible was written in Latin or a foreign language.
The truth is that the Bible exposes the false teachings of Catholicism and other religions.
It shows you that Jesus Christ is the only one who can save you and forgive your sins.
Jesus never said that you should join a church to be saved.
He did say that He is the Way the Truth and the Life and no one gets to the Father except through Him.
John 14:6
Your eternal destiny is at stake according to your decision about who you believe Jesus is and what He did.
What I experienced in my living room in 1980 was the spiritual birth that Jesus taught about in John chapter 3.
When I got off the floor that evening I was changed and empowered by the Holy Spirit to a new life.
In 2nd Corinthians 5:17 it says “if any man be in Christ he is a new creature; old things pass away and all things become new.”
I would urge any and all to read the Bible and let God guide you to Himself!

The primary relationship killer is creating a false image of your partner. Not anything else. Know the person and love them for who they truly are and you will be alright.

He seems like a cool guy

Thank you Father Mike. I'm 42 and recently going thru a relationship break but the more time goes on it seems to be a break up. We still aren't back together. Its good to know it's not just married or religious life that's important. God takes me even single.

Brilliant 😊 fr Mike

I wanted to, never really got the opportunity. Now I have zero skills and I feel like I will be judged for it. So I switch to the thing I do best, ignore. But deep down, it kills me everyday. And this is me being honest😔

But I'll never get rid of Bella.She's always been real.Nice to me and when everybody else hated me or accused me or whatever they're doing she you know, stuck up for me.I could hear her doing starting to think she's my soul sister from heavenor mm

I'm not gonna panic that always comfort me. No matter what it makes some certain way that it was bad. Always turns into good and I'm ready to get serious now. Before I had to hold off here and there. And honestly, I think the devil's had his time and his son never I ruined till midnight. It's time for us to take back. What's gone? But I only do it if God leads me. But all Catholics stuff.I would like your input I trust you

Single adults, especially older adults are ignored by priests . Which is ironic since priests are single. I have yet to ever hear a homily about single life, it's like the church has no concern for single people, it's all about families, parents and kids. Not all people are cut out to be a priest, nun or monk. And not all people meet the spouse of their dreams. There are single adults out there and it's not like they all chose to be that way.

OmG Fr.Mike's immitating Veruka Salt from Willy Wonka 😂 Love his humour and his wisdom and practical life advice.

I found mine. She was wonderful, but we broke up. Now, she is married, and I am single.

Date, don't marry, date, dont marry. Crazy cycle. done with it.

I've checked out on dating and wanting marriage, especially with modern day women, regardless if they are practicing in the church. Marriage benefits no one but females.

Thank you!

MEN you NEED to be bold and get out there, its our jobs to take the initiative. We have too many of us who are too timid.

Had a bad marriage and now at almost 70 have realized the only true friend I have is God.

I keep asking this question and no one seems to be going to answer it. I am single and I feel I'm called to be single I am 45 years old and I'm Protestant but I am curious about Catholicism and other Christian points of view but one that really confuses me but nobody seems to be answering me this question I know in the Catholic Church there's a sacrament of marriage and a sacrament of the priesthood but what do you do but what do you do with a single lady person who believes that they are called to remain single for the rest of their life? Because I don't see a sacrament of singleness. Therefore I feel left out even though I don't feel the least bit lonely and I don't feel the least bit of desire to ever be married since I believe I have a gift a singleness.

Thank you Father Mike.

I’m no expert, but advice I’ve heard that made sense went basically like this: “Men, ask women out. You don’t even have to like them all that much yet; just try with people and someone will probably take you by surprise. Women, drop the handkerchief. You don’t need to be the asker, but make sure you’re going out of your way to show men that you could be interested”

I can’t understand why God wants me to be alone. Why does He will so many men to never have a family, a wife and children, when they’re not called to the priesthood either? When I think about the loneliness, I question my faith. Why has God turned His face from us? Why has God ordained that many men should just remain alone?

L’autre …. La physique any action have reaction the normale we don’t panic any person….. the corps have his reaction

I can’t say that I am grateful to be single. I just can’t; I can only be glad earthly life is not the end. Then, this desire won’t exist anymore.

💥⚠️THE CULTURE IS FULL OF SIN AND REBELLION AGAINST GOD AND HIS AUTHORITY⚠️💥⚠️ THIS IS WHY THERE IS A JUDGEMENT AND WRATH AND HELL‼️PREACH THAT ⁉️🧐 INSTEAD OF LIES AND CONFUSION THAT GO AGAINST GOD'S HOLY WORD✝️

ONE WHO TURNS AWAY HIS EAR FROM HEARING THE LAW, EVEN HIS PRAYER IS AN ABOMINATION. PROVERBS 28:9 NKJVBUT HIS CITIZENS HATED HIM, AND SENT A MESSAGE AFTER HIM, SAYING, WE WILL NOT HAVE THIS MAN TO REIGN OVER US. LUKE 19:14The WISDOM of this World IS FOOLISHNESS with God.

1 Corinthians 3:19.THE LORD HAS LOOKED DOWN FROM HEAVEN UPON THE CHILDREN OF MEN TO SEE IF THERE ARE ANY WHO UNDERSTAND (ACT WISELY), WHO [TRULY] SEEK AFTER GOD, LONGING FOR HIS WISDOM AND GUIDANCE] PSALMS 14:2FOR IT IS WRITTEN AND FOREVER REMAINS WRITTEN, "I WILL DESTROY THE WISDOM OF THE WISE [THE PHILOSOPHY OF THE PHILOSOPHERS], AND THE CLEVERNESS OF THE CLEVER [WHO DO NOT KNOW ME] I WILL NULLIFY." WHERE IS THE WISE MAN (PHILOSOPHER)? WHERE IS THE SCRIBE (SCHOLAR)? WHERE IS THE DEBATER (LOGICIAN, ORATOR) OF THIS AGE? HAS GOD NOT EXPOSED THE FOOLISHNESS OF THIS WORLD'S WISDOM? 1 CORINTHIANS 1:19-20FOR THE WRATH OF GOD IS REVEALED FROM HEAVEN AGAINST ALL UNGODLINESS AND UNRIGHTEOUSNESS OF MEN, WHO BY THEIR UNRIGHTEOUSNESS SUPPRESS THE TRUTH. FOR WHAT CAN BE KNOWN ABOUT GOD IS PLAIN TO THEM, BECAUSE GOD HAS SHOWN IT TO THEM. FOR HIS INVISIBLE ATTRIBUTES, NAMELY, HIS ETERNAL POWER AND DIVINE NATURE, HAVE BEEN CLEARLY PERCEIVED, EVER SINCE THE CREATION OF THE WORLD, IN THE THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN MADE. SO THEY ARE WITHOUT EXCUSE. FOR ALTHOUGH THEY KNEW GOD, THEY DID NOT HONOR HIM AS GOD OR GIVE THANKS TO HIM, BUT THEY BECAME FUTILE IN THEIR THINKING, AND THEIR FOOLISH HEARTS WERE DARKENED. ROMANS 1:18-21LET NO ONE DECEIVE HIMSELF. IF ANYONE AMONG YOU THINKS THAT HE IS WISE IN THIS AGE, LET HIM BECOME A FOOL [DISCARDING HIS WORLDLY PRETENSIONS AND ACKNOWLEDGING HIS LACK OF WISDOM], SO THAT HE MAY BECOME [TRULY] WISE. FOR THE WISDOM OF THIS WORLD IS FOOLISHNESS (ABSURDITY, STUPIDITY) BEFORE GOD; FOR IT IS WRITTEN [IN SCRIPTURE], "[HE IS] T HE ONE WHO CATCHES THE WISE AND CLEVER IN THEIR CRAFTINESS;" AND AGAIN, "T HE LORD KNOWS THE THOUGHTS OF THE [HUMANLY] WISE, THAT THEY ARE USELESS."

1 CORINTHIANS 3:18-20Partial Obedience to Word of God is still a complete disobedience and a direct rebellion to God.While many profess to know Christ, it is those who do the will of God, and who truly follow and obey Jesus Christ who will be saved, and those only.

• Matthew HenryBe very careful not to determine your decisions based upon what you think will make other people happy.

Obedience to God must always come first.ACTS 5:29 THEN PETER AND THE OTHER APOSTLES

ANSWERED AND SAID, WE OUGHT TO OBEY GOD RATHER THAN MEN.in flaming fire taking vengeance on those who do not know God, and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.

II Thessalonians 1:8 NKJV"WHAT SHALL THE END BE OF THEM THAT OBEY NOT THE GOSPEL OF GOD?"

1 PETER 4:17B


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Thanks father Mike

Honestly this discouraged me more than anything else, and contrary to what the Father, with all due respect, makes it seem, this issue is not analogous to that of a spoiled child who wants things no matter what, but a profound human drama . Those who are hungry need food, and they need it quickly! Many of us who are single and growing older feel a kind of hunger. Adam, in paradise, before sin and in the presence of God, was alone; what will not be said about us!

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I’m 58 years old, never married and no kids. The truth is for whatever reason some of us will never meet the right person but a single life is far from a wasted one. I still thank God I was single so I could be my father’s full time caregiver when he was in his last days. I can’t imagine how I could have done that had I’d been married with a family. I thank God for Father Mike’s words as sadly even some people in the Church can be a little harsh on this subject and try to suggest that if you’re older, never married, not ordained or a consecrated religious you must have done something wrong and you missed the “vocation boat.” God does not abandon anyone based on vocation status or any other reason. If a person is a life long single than he or she must be obedient to God and the Church and give of yourself to others where you can.

Ooo I luv this 😜

Christ speaks through His mystical body. Listen to your fellow parishioners, God will put it in their heart to tell you if you're supposed to be a priest or monk. If you're called to marriage your spouse will find you. If you don't know who they are, pray for them now.

I clicked this video because the thumbnail had "DON'T PANIC" inscribed in large friendly letters on its cover.

Women really need to hear this.